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@Anonymous Okay so I had a ROCD spiral with this guy at work and I after felt like I cheated on my bf and was asking strangers on the internet if it was cheating, I was bed bound for two weeks but when I asked, some people said yes it’s cheating. Of corse now I’m spiralling more and feel like I don’t deserve a life. Has this ever happened to anyone before with ROCD when asking for reasurence

@Ocd_is_horribke Coming from a stranger over the Internet, strangers over the Internet suck. Take their replies with a grain of salt. Even this one 😉. But you know more about the situation than anyone else could, and I can at the very least promise that you deserve a life.

@Anonymous Ok so basically I have server anxiety/ocd, meaning I will question every thought and action I do etc. it’s horrible im getting help. Basically I have a boyfriend but at work I found a guy attractive and felt drawn to him, my ocd was worrying about this and made me think I was flirting and cheating on my partner. I started panicking. Basically all day I was worrying if I’d flirt with him and worrying how it would make me look. Basically I felt more drawn to talk to him and be more banter around him, and I got all giddy like it was a little crush. But this one literally for 10 mins and we spoke about cars and work and did not flirt. However after I regretted it and just sat in bed all day and didn’t eat because I thought this makes me cheating. I’ve asked many ppl and they’ve all said “it’s normal to want another guys attention it’s not cheating” I didn’t touch the guy or anything like that physically, he pretend flirts with me such as tapping me etc but I don’t do it back. Basically I’m just scared that this little situation makes me a cheater

@Ocd_is_horribke Sometimes it's easy to forget that we are essentially monkeys that figured out how to make computers and planes and stuff. These feelings are normal and frankly biological. It's hard-coded to seek out potential mates. Now, the whole evolved concept comes in, where we use our higher functioning to rationalize the biological urges. There's a MASSIVE difference between being friendly and acknowledging that this person is attractive/alluring, and actually acting on the impulse. When you found yourself in a panic, it's because your original feelings for your current bf are still there and strong. It was the biological signs going off, and your higher functioning immediately saying "NAH" and the discourse between the two sent your brain into super anxiety/OCD mode. My opinion, no, you didn't cheat. It's probably a healthy chat to have with your partner at some point. And if I can add some crude humor, "it's not what gets the motor running, but it's what crosses the finish line." Forgive yourself a little. 🤟

@Ocd_is_horribke If you’re flirting with someone else intentionally then yes but if not then there’s no cheating

@chris tee lo No just spoke to him more because I found him attractive but didn’t flirt and he flirted but I said no to him

@chris tee lo Can I talk to you more into detail about it?

@Ocd_is_horribke Yeah sure go ahead I’ll try my best to understand

@chris tee lo Hi so I have many themes of ocd and recently I found this guy attractive at work (which is fine no issue in that) however of corse my ocd gives me so many thoughts of how I’m acting around him and I even move away when he comes close because I’m scared I might touch him or he might touch me and it means I’ve cheated on my bf etc. however on my break I had the erge to talk to him more because I found him attractive so I spoke to him more. Only about his car etc but I felt more drawn to talk to him. I’m now scared I’ve cheated and this has left me bed bound for a while. Some people have said it’s cheating but those are strangers without ocd. He flirted physically and I didn’t do it back. But I find myself smiling around him a lot. My ocd twists every little situation with him. I’m just so scared. I’m a loyal person but this one situation really scared me I need opinions if this is ocd or not

@Ocd_is_horribke I see I see no I understand this is a difficult situation especially with ocd first of all you aren’t a cheater these are just your thoughts spiraling it’s okay to find people attractive and sometimes even be drawn to them and like you said he flirted and you didn’t do anything back so that’s good and also since you said he flirted with you you should probably distance yourself from him or set boundaries since you’re in a relationship and you know he likes you but you haven’t cheated everything’s okay you shouldn’t look for more reassurance and don’t tell your partner sit with the thoughts and the uncertainty it’s gonna be okay