School

My daughter feels similarly. It makes me so sad. You have to learn to see yourselves as the unique people and one-of-a-kind beauties that you are. There is no one else on earth like you. And no one can replace you. No one can do the job on this earth that only you were meant to do. You need to start to see yourself as intrinsically valuable. And this has nothing to do with other people's opinions of you. It's true that what we repeat to ourselves actually creates neuropathways in our brains. It's time for you to make new and good pathways! Every time you get up in the morning, tell yourself that you are beautiful and valuable. It doesn't matter if you don't feel it. It doesn't matter even if you don't believe it yet. Just SAY it. Your brain can become engrained in new, healthy pathways over time.

Aww. Idk if this is weird but I’m the same age as you and I’m down to be friends I really relate this. I promise no one thinks that. Everyone at this age is just worried about themselves and scared people are thinking that about them.

Hi, As someone that was bullied in high school and always hated myself as a teenager… Let me tell you, Please stop judging yourself so harshly, You need to learn to be kind and forgiving to yourself. People are rarely if ever judging you as you imagine now. It is because we already have a negative bias towards ourselves we assume everyone around us is judging us in the same manner. I know its easier said than done but try not to percieve negatives of yourself based on what you think others might think. There is little else more satisfying than learning to be yourself and happy with yourself which everybody on this planet should be! We let societal expectations and others around us try to shape our self perception when in reality being yourself and being happy with yourself regardless is the true key to happiness. Anyone that might rarely actually judge you only does so out of there own insecurities. I am older now and never felt more confident in myself regardless of percieved thoughts and expectations of others, I just wish I could show my 13 year old self this so I wouldnt have wasted so much of my youth self loathing when there is so much to be happy about and enjoy. I hope you find positives in yourself as I guarantee you there will be plenty! Hope you find this helpful 🙏

School is a nightmare I know, please love yourself. You’re just in a nightmare microcosm of people in a system designed when society was a lot more authoritarian. Don’t let it get you down. But like also, people in school have their own issues to deal with they don’t notice or think “you’re trying too hard” Also, if you think your hair isn’t great looking after a blowout. It might a different texture, I assume maybe it’s wavy/ curly (my hair is wavy and the hair dryer is not too kind to its beauty). Maybe try air drying it no hair dryer and applying mousse/ salt water spray or curl cream to the ends.