I feel inexperienced and broken.

Ok so…. I have never had a kiss I’ve never had a bf. I am also still a teen. I feel so inexperienced and I was talking to someone today about how I was going on a date this weekend with a boy a really don’t like, but I am going in case I feel something. Anyways the person was like shocked I never had my first kiss or much of experience at all and like she tells me I’m pretty. But boys don’t really approach me and all the guys I have ever “liked” or was attracted to tend to be completely out of my league or I lose interest immediately. I just am feeling kind of numb because the person asked if I was self sabotaging…. Like looks arent the most important thing to me but you need to have a good personality to go with it and I guess I’ve never had an in person convo with a man that made me feel anything. I am also very obvious if I don’t like something it will show on my face and my actions. I just need advice because right now I feel lonely and am tired of bothering people with my issues. Should I put myself out there? But I’m honestly horrible at criticism if it is not constructive or even sometimes criticism period, also am scared of rejection. Also like what the heck do you talk about to these men like I swear I try to make convo or like talk to some people and its the blandest convo. I want to step outside my comfort zone and maybe download a dating app or something…. But I just dont feel pretty and I think my personality is not great. And whenever I bring that up I never want any damn sympathy I just want to say how I feel. I am just having a lot of anxiety about this and just relationships in general. Please any advice would do.

Alice 🩵🌊🦋

Date posted: 11h

Okok girly I gotchu! So first I wanna say there is nothing wrong with not having a first kiss or bf ect yet! And second i feel like it is ok to put yourself out there but what i would say is a lot of guys especially teen guys aren’t men yet. They are little boys who aren’t mature yet (not all but a lot). So if one of them acts like one dont take it personally because it is truly not you it’s them. Secondly in order to find someone you have to be confident in yourself. I know everyone always says that but it’s true! You should love yourself and have confidence before getting into a relationship. So you are beautiful and NOT broken! If you need anymore advice just ask I gotchu girly! 💕

sarabrewton

Date posted: 11h

You sound just like me. I was very introverted never had a bf or kissed anyone or even went on a date. Now I’m in a year and a half long relationship. So my advice is don’t feel like you have to rush anything. The right person will come when you least expect it. Maybe even try to become friends before jumping into things. You’re gonna feel awkward and inexperienced but there are still good guys out there that are looking for someone just like you. Don’t rush it, and just have fun with it.

r.m.1

Date posted: 10h

I didn’t go on a date until i was in my 20s and then didn’t kiss someone until like 24. I married that man. I was super nervous on the first date. First dates are incredibly awkward 😅

Anonymous

Date posted: 24w

Struggling😢

Can having socd make you lose attraction. I have never be the girl to obsess or chase after boys does that mean I’m gay. I had crushes on them but I would rather die then have them know I like them. Plus I knew they were out of my league so even if they did like me I feel like I would say no for some reason. I have been single all my life and thinking of being in a relationship feels so weird and scary and foreign. Like I feel like I won’t be in a relationship. I won’t look good with anyone or I will feel like an imposter. Idk how to explain it. I want to feel love but all this is making me feel like I never will.

Anonymous

Date posted: 23w

Advice

As someone who has never been in a relationship it’s hard for me to envision myself in one and know what it will feel like. I feel like being 21 I’ve protected myself a lot due to insecurity. I want a boyfriend and yet I don’t it’s just all really scary for me. I never had the stupid relationship to break the ice and now I’m putting so much pressure and emphasis on things and finding the RIGHT person. Also have hocd definitely doesn’t help. I’m working on myself and doing my best. But my current feelings are: I don’t like the way I look, I can’t imagine myself with someone, and I’m never going to find someone I click with and feel good with. Any advice??????

JoPK

Date posted: 21w

I really need some kind of reassurance or advice

I just got broken up with 13 days ago after 5 months super unexpectedly for no reason other then he needs to work on himself. That night i was really alone because my parents told me he was a good influence on me and my friends weren’t so i had no one. I added this guy on Snapchat that same night and we’ve texted and called every night since. We met 3 days ago and it went really good. We were both nervous but both talked about the next one and how we both had fun. Last night he went to bed without even a goodnight or any talking that whole day but apologized and said goodmorning this morning. Then tonight he randomly sends a paragraph saying he doesn’t think it’s going to work. When i asked why he said “Idk our personalities are just a bit different and idk if I’m really ready to be in a relationship”. It makes sense i guess but I’m really struggling with the fact that my last relationship said that exact same thing and i can’t help but think there has to be something wrong with me. I never cheated or did anything that could’ve upset either of them. I’m 17 and i really feel like i should just stop trying for a relationship but no one is giving me any kind of advice so I’ve just been over thinking all of it. Any past relationship I’ve gotten over by meeting someone new but I don’t know how to “work on myself”. I really think I have a fear of being alone. Please help!

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