i got broken up with right before going back to college and i was dating him for 6 years. he was my crutch and my go to comfort person. and now i feel so lost and sad and im like getting suicidal ocd again like im scared im gonna die from this like something is gonna take over because i feel so terrible right now its only been 4 days
A breakup is a really big deal. You are grieving deeply. Remind yourself that you have coped with suicidal obsessions before and you can cope again. And take some time to take care of yourself.
Hey, going through something very similar, even the same amount of years my ex and I were together. I feel nothing anymore. How have you been holding up?
@Michele32 i’m doing a bit better; i still really miss him i keep thinking im gonna talk to him again which i dont really know hoping we do but idk just feel lost
@helpme1234 Have you had dreams of him? I have without failure had a dream of her every night. I also have those similar hopes and fantasies that one day we will meet and all the “love” will return, but I also know that is completly false hope, and only a fictional story I tell myself to feel better. I’m not sure how you plan on going forward but I’ve been trying to use the law of Detachment. I’ve seen this story of a king tantalus who was punished by the gods by never being able to reach what he wanted the harder he tried. I think this is interesting cuz I also saw someone post that they tried to move on fully , with the idea it would unintentionally bring them back, but I think the main idea as well is that once you get to that point you may feel very different and want / wish for different things. I have no clue how to navigate this, or if it’s even the “right” way to go. Struggling everyday to txt her I miss her. I really do wish you the best on your journey. And I’m hoping we both heal over time
@Michele32 i do have dreams of them every night. i’m hoping to see him again because we have mutual friends and he said that we could try again later but i know i have to work on myself first and so does he. so maybe just think about working on yourself for you
@helpme1234 It’s very interesting that our experience arr almost identical, minus the fact that I’m no longer in college. She also told me that she may want to try again later on, and I really held onto that for a while, but I also know for me at least it’s not fair to string myself on this way. She was so scared of loosing me completely she didn’t want to do NC but I had to tell her I can’t move on if we are still talking. And yeah I’ve certainly been doing that. (Working on myself that is) Or at least trying. The first week I ate nothing. I lost a lot of weight. Then it came to eating more. Now I spend more time in the gym than anywhere else. It’s the only place I can truly have full control over my body. I also started journaling, and reading a lot. I know it sucks, and I hope that things go well for you. I don’t want to say never hope again (for him that is) , but be careful not to loose yourself in the process. If I continued to stay in her life after the breakup I know it would’ve killed me. OCD has a funny way of making us obsess about this person and about our feelings and actions and it’s a horrible thing to deal with.
@Michele32 yeah ik!! and maybe you guys will try again! maybe in the future you have the power to reach out and see if she’s still there. it’s okay to take time for yourself
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
My partner broke up with my about 10 months ago. It came out of nowhere, and I got no explanation before they ghosted me and blocked me on all forms of contact. I have been horribly struggling since then with this obsessive need for closure. For a while I continued to try to reach out to them, on my own accord or through other people, but it just kept ending with more blocking. For months, I was going through the relationship and the breakup in my head over and over, picking it apart to try and figure out what went wrong, but without a conversation with my ex, I couldn't get anywhere. I am definitely doing much better now. the compulsions to reach out to her and the spiral obsession with figuring out what went wrong have both lessened. but they are still present, especially when I sleep. I really just want to be rid of the whole situation, but i want to do it in a healthy way without locking up my feelings. i really am at such a loss though. i still want answers and i still miss my ex in a lot of ways, but at the same time, the though of running into them scares the shit out of me. ive heard some horrible things about them since then, and how they have been spreading rumors about me behind my back. the situation cant seem to get any worse and it just keep happening. and it makes my ocd triggers so much worse too. idk, i will take literally any responses and any helpful advice.
I was broken up with 3 weeks ago and things are just getting worse. I feel like I’m wasting away and like nothing will get better. What’s worse is knowing that if I get out of this episode my ocd will strike back and I’m scared I won’t be able to deal with it. It’s like every part of me can’t accept this break up. I’ve reached out to people but I really would love to hear stories from anyone who thought they wouldn’t make it out
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