Staring anxiety

Not sure this is really OCD related, but does anyone else struggle with erythrophobia (the fear of blushing)? I struggle with it really bad and I feel like it’s kind of OCD related because the more you try not to think about something, the worse it gets. The more I try not to blush, the more I do. Anyway, today, I was at church which for some reason always gives me the most anxiety. I struggle with never knowing where to look which I know sounds stupid and I feel like I tend to avoid other people’s gazes. I’m always worried too that people can sense my anxiety. I accidentally made eye contact with the priest and a few other people and immediately started turning red. I looked down so as to hide it but I think people still noticed. I know that people aren’t really looking at me but I’ve always had the spotlight effect where I feel like they are always looking at me and judging me. After I blushed, I noticed 2 of the altar servers were whispering and laughing and they seemed to be looking at me. I felt so self-conscious the rest of the service. I hate erythrophobia and social anxiety and I know blushing might not seem like a big deal to those who don’t constantly struggle with it but it is to me and has ruined my life. Does anyone else struggle with this?

I have been staring at other men’s faces and in a way that I would not be happy with if my boyfriend did it, at least I think. It’s compulsive staring, meaning that I get anxiety if I don’t stare, but also get anxiety because I look for too long. The main doubt I have is if my vulvodynia would be different with someone else. It’s so painful to be with someone you love and want them, but every time you try your body won’t let you. I don’t want to eat. I don’t want to go out. I used to love the gym but now it scares me. I don’t try to make friends anymore because I’m scared. In the moment when I have been staring, it has felt like a pull that I can’t control. My brain totally shuts down. When this happened next to my boyfriend… No, just no. No one is giving me answers. I don’t see my new psychologist untill more than a week, and I’m going on a trip with my boyfriend. Every time I am with him, I feel guilty. I never wanted to stare in the first place. I think I have made my peace with that my doubt in my relationship is valid, but the staring is just so unfaithful. I’m afraid of getting a job and everything. I haven’t told him the full story, since I’m not sure if it is a compulsion. I’m also scared he will be sad and leave. Please help. I can’t do this anymore

Was getting food with someone, I got excited to eat it, but as I was talking, spit flew out my mouth and it looked like it got into the food. I really wanted to say something but the awkwardness and anxiety took over and I couldn't pick what to do and they had eaten the food This isn't someone that's happened for the first time, I've had this happen when someone passed by my in a tight space and my mind told me if I didn't move my arm in it would be a huge mistake I'd regret so I did the opposite and I thought what could go so badly, and it turned out to be really bad because the person's rear touched my elbow. I feel awful about this but at the same time I'm getting thoughts that say it isn't so bad. Thoughts trying to rationalize, but I hate when this happens to me.