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SOS
I’ve been having a hard time literally for the last month. I’m getting married in a few months and I keep hyperfixating over my fiancés old friends. Specially this one friend who used to be my fiancés inseparable childhood friend since age 5. We are originally from Minnesota and we moved to Chicago 3 years exactly at the same time my fiancés childhood friend moved to Chicago as well although they lost touch. My fiancé has never been an initiator and they are not close anymore. My fiancé says he doesn’t care but I’m not so sure I believe that. We invited him to our wedding because I think its important to be inclusive. I’ve always felt intimated by his friend because his career is way more far advanced than mine and he is very social. For the last month I’ve been maladaptive daydreaming different scenarios that my fiancé and I have a relationship with him and his gf. I feel like I have to prove myself to him and I’m feeling so much anxiety about him coming to the wedding if he comes or doesn’t come that I will have rejection sensitive dysphoria. A big component is jealousy because the friend has 3 brothers and my brother died 7 years ago. So part of my rumination’s is daydreaming that he and his brothers are my brothers since I feel so lonely. His youngest brother is/was the same age as my brother and friends with these kids who really trigger me because I wanted my brother to be normal and friends with them. We saw him today and now I can’t stop thinking and ruminating and feeling a multitude of feelings and I can’t ground myself. Would love to know if anyone is experiencing something similar. I feel so embarrassed.