I think about my partner constantly and have difficulty distracting myself. I work full time, hang out with friends, and have various interests that I pursue, yet my mind is always split with worry over my partner.
I can't and I don't. But this isn't about me. So why?
He is emotionally distant due to trauma and I don't think he has the capacity to connect. I don't feel there is much keeping us together so I worry he will leave. I know all the cbt tricks, I just don't find it helpful. I'm not sure what would be better. I break up and I go back.. for about five years a repeating cycle. I don't know which situation is more miserable.
All of it is miserable but that's just my opinion.
I know my words or extreme, even within my humor, I mean what I am saying. I try to be funny, life is hard.
Plus, I always say... I have some living to do but I'll be back. I no longer allow people to snuff my light, my joy, my need to smile, laugh or be silly and light. I found myself high8ng my joy because someone was always miserable and sad, needing toooooo much reassurance, insecure about everything. I was exhausted and I could not breath. I was dying!?
And too, you have to be careful. Some people wants you to sacrifice your everything to prove your love. And that becomes a form of control and abuse. Some people become angry to see you happy when they are not happy. You have to be careful with love ❤️ makes sure the person is in it with you and not the Opp.
Have a lovely day.
for me it’s getting to the point where i don’t feel in love with my boyfriend anymore. i’m trying to keep myself from compulsing since my compulsions are all mental. it’s like the thoughts consume my mind every second of every day and i can’t catch a break. it’s like i want to be with him so bad but my brain won’t allow me. any advice?
For some reason, my brain gets upset when my boyfriend hangs out with other people. I know I shouldn’t feel this way, but sometimes I can’t help it. I understand that he has a life outside of our relationship, and that’s great. He reassures me all the time, in fact, he often tells me he would rather spend time with me than with his friends. He’s a perfect partner, and I love him more than anything. However, I don’t want this to become an issue in our relationship. I know why my mind thinks this way, even though I don’t believe it to be true. My brain keeps telling me that he would rather be somewhere else than with me. Those words repeat in my head every time he’s out with friends, and I don’t know why. I want to find a solution to this obsessive and jealous thought so that I don’t ruin his time with friends. I really need help with this issue.❤️
Hi - just for some context, I have OCD and ADHD. I hate bringing this up, but with these diagnoses, when intertwined, there is ALWAYS a thought. I never stop thinking. This is really hard, especially because I feel like I always need to be talking to someone. Whether it’s my friends or family, talking to people brings me down to earth from certain kinds of thought spirals. However, when I’m alone it is the hardest. When my friends don’t reply I have this compulsion to text again or I need to constantly check my notifications so that I have none left to check. But then to them or new people I talk to, this behavior probably comes across as overwhelming or too much. I’m trying to control it and use erp, but also, I have my moments where I’m just vunerable and give into the compulsion. It’s genuinely so embarassing and maybe not as big a deal as I’m making it out to be but, how do I manage? And how do I relax?
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