R🌷.

Date posted: 13h

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Hello everyone, Today I received my high school results and I got a score of 71%. At first, I didn’t feel very happy because I was expecting a higher grade since I wanted to study medicine or aviation and follow my dream. Right now, I’m also trying to heal, but my mom wants me to go to university. She said it would be a waste to lose a whole year without studying, and that it would be a waste of time. But honestly, I feel confused. Should I go to university or focus on my treatment until I gain more control over my symptoms? I struggle with sexual OCD, and I know university could be very triggering for me, especially since I’m still a beginner in my recovery. I’ve also thought about repeating the year to improve my score. My mom thinks that’s not a wise decision, and I also worry about money issues because I don’t want to be a burden on my family. I even searched for a job, but so far, I haven’t found one. Some of my friends even failed completely, so I know I should be grateful, but I still don’t know what to do. Do you have any useful advice? From your perspective, what would be the better path? I would really appreciate and respect your opinions.

slippery_salad

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 13h

Oooof. My friend, this is a tough one. I just graduated college, and if I could do it again, honestly, I wouldn’t even go. But for others, I usually encourage at least taking a year to find themselves and discover their real passion before jumping in. The thing about OCD is that it will always be there. Right now you’re carrying a heavy weight, and at first it feels like it’s crushing you. Over time though, you’ll grow stronger, like someone training in the gym. The barbell doesn’t get lighter, but your muscles adapt, and one day you’ll throw it around with ease. College, though, is a whole separate issue. For me, all it really did was teach me how to do my homework. If you truly want to learn something in life, you can find it on YouTube or in books. Honestly, most of what I learned in four years of college could have been learned in one. Instead, I’m $50,000 in debt with a degree that does not even line up with the job I am doing now. That’s why I want to urge you to take your time, even if your parents are pressuring you. Think of your future like a house. You do not want to rush the foundation, because every crack will cost you more later. Well-meaning parents can accidentally push you into choices that end up making your future harder, not easier. In the meantime, you might consider picking up a trade or working as an EMT or firefighter. These careers pay well, do not require mountains of schooling, and can give you both stability and purpose while you figure out your next steps.

R🌷.

Date posted: 13h

You’re right. The OCD will always be there; I shouldn’t wait for it to disappear. But you’re also right about college—studying costs a lot, and I can’t take out a loan. I think I will work instead. By the way, we don’t have firefighting jobs for men here. Honestly, I don’t have much freedom to go out whenever I want; it’s like everything is controlled here as if it’s dictated by someone else. . “Thank you so much for your advice, I really appreciate it🥹.”

slippery_salad

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 13h

@R🌷. Can you go to a library? Can you get involved at a coffee shop?

Lunacat13

Date posted: 13h

do you have a community college close to home? you could do some of your general ed classes there before doing university. Community colleges are smaller and won’t be as triggering for ocd, and they are also a lot cheaper!

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 12h

U could be a substitute teacher

R🌷.

Date posted: 12h

Actually, this type of work doesn’t exist where I live.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 12h

@R🌷. Ohh why not

R🌷.

Date posted: 12h

@Allison💗🦊 Where do you live?

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 12h

@R🌷. Florida, but I thought they had subsitute teachers everywhere

R🌷.

Date posted: 12h

@Allison💗🦊 Ah, I see. There’s a difference—actually, we don’t have this type of job where I live.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 12h

@R🌷. Ohhh so then what type of jobs do u guys have

R🌷.

Date posted: 12h

@Allison💗🦊 Most jobs are available here, but some of them require a degree. I could work at a café or, for example, a clothing store. However, my brother is very strict, and I’m not sure… Since I’m a girl, I don’t know how I could work. Honestly, I feel restricted because of his way of thinking, and I don’t even have freedom over my own feelings.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 12h

@R🌷. Where do u live?

R🌷.

Date posted: 12h

@Allison💗🦊 You can guess🤔.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 12h

@R🌷. I have no idea lollll

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 12h

@R🌷. Is it in the us or outside?

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 12h

@R🌷. What continent maybe I can guess from that

R🌷.

Date posted: 12h

@Allison💗🦊 Oh, a little cheat, that's fine 😅 Umm… Africa.

R🌷.

Date posted: 12h

@Allison💗🦊 In reality, I really like America and I plan to visit in the future, especially Los Angeles and New York. I admire your culture a lot, and honestly, I like many things about you. You are a kind and helpful people, contrary to what is sometimes said, but it doesn’t matter—truly, you are wonderful🥹.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Hmmm I guess Sudan or something like that

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 Noo, 🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Hmmmmmmm is it in the north east south or west

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 Oh, I’ll give you another chance. 🤔

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 It’s somewhat close to Egypt.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Eritrea

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 oh No

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Hmmmm Chad

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 🤣😭😭No

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 Umm, okay, I’m from Libya 🇱🇾.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Noooo I could’ve got that

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. I was close

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 It seems like you don’t handle losing very well🫣

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 I’m really sorry😥

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. 🤣🤣🤣

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. It’s all good lolol

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 ok💞💞💞

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. 🥰🥰🥰

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 So, what stage of your studies are you in🤔?

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. I’m in 11th grade in high school. What about you?

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 Do you mean you were born in 2009?

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Yeah

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 I’m about to start university, honestly, you don’t need to read the post, it’s not important. You know, I studied a lot this year, especially the year before university—it was really exhausting because you have to study everything. The study system here isn’t easy; it’s strict and sometimes limited, depending on which grade you’re in.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. What do u want to study in university?

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 I’m 2007. Yes, I remember that I developed a disorder when I was 16. I’m 17 now because I was born at the end of the year, so there isn’t much difference between us.

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 In fact, I want to think carefully about it, so I don’t think I’ve made a definite decision yet.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Ohhh ya😊

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Do u have anything ur considering

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 What about you? What do you want to study?

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 Actually, aviation, but not sure about the future yet.

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Idk yet

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Oooh that sounds cool

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Noo I don’t ☹️

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 yeah 🌷

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 Really? Do you practice self-discipline like me, or not?

Allison💗🦊

Date posted: 11h

@R🌷. Idk if I understand

R🌷.

Date posted: 11h

@Allison💗🦊 Oh, I understand because…

slippery_salad

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 13h

Work at a bakery? Early morning hours? That way you have the evenings to be with your family?

R🌷.

Date posted: 12h

Oh, a bakery—I don’t think you’ll understand exactly what I mean, but that’s okay. I can go to the library, but not directly, since I’m not allowed to go out freely. I live with people who are still very old-fashioned, and I don’t want to be a traditional woman. I’ve also thought about leaving my family, but I’m not independent enough yet.

Adi7

Date posted: 23w

Advice please ❤️

Hi ❤️ I’m really struggling right now I’m in my sophomore year of Highschool and I’ve finally started planning or thinking abt my future (for context I was extremely depressed and suicidal from 6-9th grade) After conquering my depression this is a huge leap for me and I’m proud of myself ❤️ But there’s something still holding me down :( and I’m not sure what to do anymore that thing is OCD. Since 6th grade I have had strong and invasive intrusive thoughts all the time they scare me so bad and make me feel as though I’m not even real anymore :( I’m sick of taking the time to do ridiculous compulsions to rid or ease these thoughts it’s a waste of time and energy and it hurts me so bad I feel like I will never get to just live my life without this :( How can I plan my future when I can’t even find myself in this mess of anxiety 💔 I’m so tired of fighting my mental health it’s been years from anxiety attacks to sh to survived suicide attempts (I got help dw❤️‍🩹) and recovery there. Just to be thrown into a storm of awful scary sickening thoughts day and night-when can I just be a normal teenager and possibly a happy adult? How do I conquer this so I can love myself to the fullest and live my life free and happy? :( ❤️❤️‍🩹 I’m so scared to talk to my parents about it I’m ashamed of my thoughts and every time I bring it up they just say I shouldn’t be diagnosing myself or it’s just ADHD. It really really hurts me they have no idea how awful this feels and it makes me feel so alone sometimes 💔

Gmoki

Date posted: 22w

How do you manage OCD in school with avoidance?

I had avoided a lot with school specifically, but I did do it in other areas of life as well. School for some reason has been the biggest trigger that sends me into avoidance and it has been for the longest time. Does anybody relate? If so, what did you do to help besides therapy? In high school I used to sit in the bathroom stalls for hours so I could avoid going to classes. I was struggling to keep up because my OCD makes me perfect my school work so much so to the point where I’d never turn it in because I’d never be satisfied with what I’d produce. I’d get so incredibly frustrated with myself and the fact that I could never meet my own standards, never mind the rubrics given. I took ages analyzing all my writing, all my answers, all my google slides and I burnt myself out. So I stopped trying. I stopped turning in work because I’d never be satisfied. I’d cry because I felt I wasn’t good enough. Then I’d be missing assignments, getting them done but not submitting them because I was too ashamed. So, I avoided classes because I’d be in trouble or be called out for not getting anything done. Unfortunately this habit bled into my first year of college last year, and OCD coupled up with depression, made going to the dining hall and attending classes even worse. So I avoided it all together. It’s so hard being a freshman in college, so so hard. I unfortunately failed out of that school but I tried to medically withdraw either semester. No, I wasn’t partying, or drinking or smoking or hanging with the wrong people. I was a college freshman struggling with ocd and depression. I’m trying to not make excuses for myself either because I’m well aware this is my fault and I’m trying to reverse it now at community college. Right now I’m trying to get those Fs turned into Ws from my old school so I can fix my gpa. I want to transfer, I want to be a forensic psychologist, I want to be independent, I want to be ok. It’s gonna take me so long to transfer from community college but that’s on me. I’m willing to put in the work. I’m so embarassed, please help me.

jhhhhh

Date posted: 18w

Should I drop out?

I am a freshman in college diagnosed with OCD, anxiety and depression. I have been on medication for 2 months but I do not see any improvement yet. College has become an anxiety fuel now and I can’t study because I am too anxious and sometimes I cry when I try to. I can’t perform well in classes and the workload is stressing me out. During the first exam season I was a wreak but I wasn’t yet on meds and that’s when my depression appeared. The thing is I can’t really do the normal routine things and I don’t find happiness in the things that were my hobbies. I don’t know how I’ll be able to tell my parents if I do it because my mom is really on about the fact that I can do it cause I’m strong and now I just feel like I will disappoint her. If anyone that went or is going through this let me know your experience.

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