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@Mk3 Two things can be true at once. It can be true that (1) it would hurt your partners feelings if they knew AND (2) it’s okay and you don’t have to confess. Your partner doesn’t have to know everything that goes on in your head, even if it is something they would potentially want to know about or something potentially hurtful. You could try sitting with the idea “I would want to know if my partner thought this, and I’m still going to choose to keep it to myself” It is hard!!

@Mk3 Chances are that’s all correct! I can’t speak to your relationship but I do know that not confessing is definitely the right thing to improve your OCD. Which in turn will likely help your relationship!

@Mk3 I totally get you! It also seems like you’re searching for a definite signal that what you’re doing is right, which is the ocd talking. It will make you keep looking for that definite permission. Try choosing to do it (not confess) even without knowing 100%.

@Mk3 All that paranoia and guilt is what ocd does when we resist compulsions 😫 unfortunately you just have to weather the storm. But I’m proud of you for choosing not to confess despite it all!

@Mk3 Yes totally, that’s very common. People with ocd often crowdsource opinions to try to find certainty about the right thing to do (which is a compulsion). It doesn’t work because like you said, opinions differ between people and you end up with confusing results. I think you should pick what you’re going to do and stick to it without ruminating, asking for opinions, second guessing, or trying to reaffirm the choice. And sit with the uncertain feelings that come. I think you mentioned a few posts back that you are choosing not to confess, so just make that choice and refuse to engage with the ocd by second guessing it.

@Anonymous You are highly oversimplifying OCD

@truetrev I’m not doing anything But saying if ROCD is up front about it It won’t become a bigger issue Just my opinion You don’t have to agree To each their own As that’s what I’d appreciate/ respect from someone i was in a relationship with