How do you make friends as a adult I m so socially awkward shy and have social anxiety all of this due to being bullied when I was little I always believe no one want to be my friend now as a adult I think the worse
I feel this. It's hard to do. I started volunteering as a way to meet new people do you have any special causes you are interested in?
Im considering this for the issue raised in the original post.
@julianofnorwich I have social anxiety so volunteering I will have to interact with people that will send me to panic attacks I hate my š§ but I know I have to do those things
@Monii I have that too! Volunteering at a farmers market was hard for me at first and still is! I wore a face mask to help me feel more comfortable so people couldn't see my whole face. I cried many times, even tearing up in front of customers while trying to hold it back! That's why the face mask helped!
@julianofnorwich :( sorry about that but I know facing the anxiety little by little help but I just wish we didnāt have to do these and just have normal brain you know what I mean when my social anxiety kick in my health anxiety do as well because of the fast heart rate šŖ I understand you I send you hugs and strength to go through this we have to remain strong šŖ
Hey, I was bullied growing up too. As an adult with one kiddo, do you know what helped me? Watching Ted Lasso. That guy is relentlessly optimistic and doesnāt take it personally if not every relationship works. He just genuinely cares for other people and itās infectious. Be like Ted and youāll inevitably find people who see your goodness and want more of it. I hope this helps you :)
@Ghostbeaters Thank you I will look it up and watch it I appreciate that
Sorry to hear that you are bullied when you were little. I too was also bullied at times when I was little. I think patience is something that can definitely help to apply to yourself. Compassion, along with breaking down your goals into steps can also help. It all starts with your interests. What do you like? What hobbies do you like to do? Finding a common ground with others based on your likes is a go to method to meeting people. Next is going to places that involve these interests. As an example, let's say you really enjoy cooking. Cooking classes or any kind of clubs available for the hobby can be a wonderful way to meet others that really like to make dishes the same way you do. Now for the hard part of socializing: The anxiety. Anxiety can be really hard to ignore because it's just trying to protect you. It doesn't want things to go wrong and if it does, it will spike and make you feel really nervous and scared about situations you're in. The tricky part is to face this anxiety in favor of what you want out of your life. This is extremely difficult but with practice, patience, and recognizing the moments that you do indeed take control of your anxiety, you will prove to yourself that you can indeed make friends!!
@BigGyro09 Yes sorry you went through the same thing I know exactly how it feels I do need to apply those things to myself I like doing make up dancing listening to music I m trying to find people that also like these things but I m scared of being judged scared of people no wanting to make friends I guess is part of the bullied I went through my brain always think I will get treated the same as when I was a kid I canāt shake these thoughts away the worse part is I believe these thoughts but yes anxiety is the worse soon as I talk to someone I feel the panic coming in and want to run away and cry even though I really want to make friends the anxiety symptoms wonāt let me I donāt want people think I m so weird for having to run away because of the anxiety you explained everything so perfect definitely right I will save this screenshot and look at it when I need help thank you very much
Does anyone want to actually be friends? Id love to have a few friends to talk to maybe a group chat or something
Iām in a class with a majority (basically all) people a grade younger than me because I messed up my schedule. it will be like this next year too, because the class that iām in next year my grade already took this past year. I messed up , and now my friends ask me about it and treat me like younger than them and like below them kind of. and theyāre not bad friends, but it is embarrassing bec what i did is just not normal. iāve tried to keep it on the dl from people because they judge. I know iām probably overthinking it but iām scared my friends are gonna leave me because all they talk about is the class that theyāre in that iām not in and leave me because Iām behind. itās really stupid that iām not really a part of my own grade anymore, and it ruined my school years that i am currently in (at least thatās what it feels like). basically im scared that iām going to be lonely the rest of these years and sad and itās all because of a choice I made, even though i hope they wouldnāt do that.:(
Did anyone experience SA as a child. I've come out and people have blocked me almost across the board. I know this isn't totally OCD but it kind of is because I have so much doubt on how to proceed. I have no evidence and I believe I'll fail so much. Can I get through the turmoil of this with OCD? I'm a friendless mess.
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