Am I in the wrong?

I've been trying to date again and with OCD, it's been difficult as I'm sure you can imagine. I had a date with someone that we had planned for a fortnight, but they cancelled on the day. They didn't text me for a week so I sent them a message asking if I did anything wrong. They said I didn't, so I asked that they just tell me next time. I genuinely wasn't mad, I was just upset that after sending messages every day, a week would pass without anything. I thought I had hurt them in some way. After explaining everything I have said just now, I received a one word message. "Okay." Now I'm over apologising because I know they're upset. In my head I'm asking why I don't ever get an apology.

Imnew@this

Date posted: 9w

I totally understand but this person didn’t sound right for you. You deserve honesty

Generiname

Date posted: 9w

Yeah. It feels painful after exposing my OCD like this to them, they still decided to forgo communication for a whole week without a simple "I'm doing well". It is what it is, I guess.

Imnew@this

Date posted: 9w

Yes, it hurts, but don’t give up. There is someone out there for you

Love1another<3

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 9w

You deserve and need someone just as interested in you as you are in them ❤️ Someone more compatible for you is out there

NotMyStick

Date posted: 9w

From my experience, one word replies is a tell. This person Just wasn’t that interested in the conversation or you as a person it could go either way. They could’ve been talking with you solely for entertainment to get some kind of dopamine rush, perhaps. Or the person didn’t want to hurt your feelings by rejecting you and kept the conversation going Until they’ve run out of things to say. You’ve done nothing to upset them as much as your OCD may want you to think.. a lot of people just don’t know how to be forward and truthful with themselves so they dragged things along. Leaving others lost, and confused.

Imnew@this

Date posted: 9w

Sometimes things don’t work out. If you truly like talking to this person, keep in touch, but otherwise, it’s best to move on.

Generiname

Date posted: 9w

I don't think we'll be continuing talking after the "Okay." message. I'd like to keep talking, but I think they took me asking for better communication as "You did something wrong." It's just tiring being blamed all the time when all I want is for people to just be honest and open with me 😂

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