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It sounds like you’re feeling overwhelmed by these breakup urges, especially when you’re apart from your boyfriend. It’s common for OCD to latch onto the things we care about most, and stressful times can make intrusive thoughts feel even louder. Remember, having these thoughts doesn’t mean you want to act on them. If you’d like additional support, feel free to book a free call with our NOCD team. We’d be happy to share more information and explore ways to help. No one has to live in fear of their own thoughts. Also here are some helpful resources: https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/why-ocd-feels-so-real/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/relationship-doubts-sign-of-relationship-ocd-symptom/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/5-things-you-can-do-to-support-a-loved-one-with-ocd-bfrbs-or-tic-disorders/

College stress is understandably a big stressor for couples and its good that you are able to recognize the impact it can have in a relationship. Its important to prioritize a balance between school and your relationship so you are both able to get what you need done and so you can also both continue to develop the relationship you have created with one another. ROCD is one of my subsets and I've definitely been there in the absence of my partner. Practice with that phrase of breaking up or feeling an urge to break up. Write it down and read it out loud if you want and sit there with all the feelings and thoughts that come along with it. When it comes to mind just remember its simply just a thought or if you feel stress or anxiety, call it out for what that is.

Hello emthegem, As Brooke mentioned, intrusive thoughts only occur in response to things we value. Relationships, work, who are, what we represent; any of which could become intrusive thoughts, based on our values. The important thing to remember, is that an intrusive thoughts, is a thought, not an experience. With intrusive thoughts, by their very nature, they are hard to ignore, and cause distress. Instead of trying to question the thought or even argue you with it, have you instead tried to sit with uncertainty? Were you able to let your distress pass? Did you struggle to figure out how to start? At NOCD we are trained experts in the diagnosis and treatment of OCD and related conditions using Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP). ERP is the gold standard of treatment for OCD and related conditions, with the better part of the past century's research backing the efficacy of ERP. If you would like more information on OCD and ERP, please visit our website at www.treatmyocd.com. If you are seeking to begin/resume your journey of recovery, you may reach out to our member advocate team at care@nocdhelp.com. I hope this message reaches you well and know that at NOCD, we are always here to help! Take care, Ian M. Reeder