Can it be possible that ROCD starts off as thoughts but then just lead to feelings? Does that make sense? I’ve been with my partner 9 years, my ROCD started two months ago. Started off with massive anxiety, constant thoughts, etc. Now I just feel like it’s feelings? Feelings that I don’t love him, that I don’t want to be with him. I have been diagnosed with ROCD but I didn’t know if it could do this? I don’t know if I’m making sense.
It can be intrusive thoughts, feelings, or urges. Sorry that you’re having to deal with this unexpected battle:(
@AbiBrooke I don’t even feel scared anymore… I don’t know what’s happening. I’ve been diagnosed with ROCD but I just feel calm?
@beckalouisex It’s almost like you don’t care about him anymore or something? Or at least that’s how it feels?
@AbiBrooke It can be yes
@AbiBrooke Like I’m disconnected from him and yeah
@beckalouisex I’m going through something similar with my boyfriend. We recently started talking more about engagement and my thoughts and feelings have made me feel dull about it and yet fearful at the same time. Like I’m lying to him.
@AbiBrooke Are you on social media so we can chat?
@AbiBrooke I’ll message and follow you now x
@AbiBrooke I can’t find your username.. can you quickly put it back here and I’ll try again
@beckalouisex abbeyl_10
@beckalouisex Let me know if you still can’t find it
The only way to become free of ocd is radical acceptance on maybe you are maybe your not, and redirecting your focus to real life. It will feel terrifying and mind-numbing painful at first but with time you will feel so much better. As with any and all themes, regardless of content, this is the only way found to end the ocd cycle.
@Diana Rachel I just don’t get how 9 years of love can just go?
@Diana Rachel That’s what I remember telling myself in the beginning. But is there a chance your brain is just telling you that to protect you and him like OCD like to do? Sometimes asking myself things like that helps sometimes it makes it worse because then I get in a cycle of is it OCD or is it me? And again maybe we will never know and that’s okay.
@Abbeyma513 I’m very hyper focused on my feelings
@Abbeyma513 Is there a way I can message you?
Hi there! I am also struggling with ROCD and it’s been the toughest battle of my life. I’ve been with partner for 7 years and engaged for one year. Now that I know what ROCD is I can tell I’ve always had it but it’s been manageable in the past and the intrusive thoughts only popped up occasionally and felt mild and then would go away for a while, but as we’ve gotten more into wedding planning and now that we live alone together it’s really intensified. I too constantly analyze how I feel about him and try to pick a part what is the OCD and what is my true feelings. And maybe I’ll never know. I’m trying to practice that maybe I’ll never know attitude. Im very new in my journey and I’m just hopeful I can find a way to manage this because I know he has all the qualities of the partner I want and is so caring and loving and I know one day I want my own family with a husband and kids. But that means I have to be able to make decisions on wedding plans and not cry constantly because something doesn’t feel right or doubt my feelings cause that’s no way for me or my partner to live. Sorry that was long, but it helped me and thanks for sharing.
@Abbeyma513 Idk if I’m too hyper focused on my feelings or what, idk what’s going on with me
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