Mini rant

I hate when people don't give more insight and ask questions like "Can we talk?" "Can I ask you something private?" "Can I tell you something?" Stuff like that, and often if it's text they will leave ya in suspense for awhile and it kills me. Like be direct, sometimes it feels like it's on purpose. Like I'm worried on how to respond to things cause if I don't wanna respond they might make assumptions, but if I do respond im uncomfy and worried they will make assumptions due to the fact I over explain. And I wanna talk about something specific but their is a slight chance the person who caused this rant has this app. So I'm worried to be specific and that they will look at my other posts and it won't be anonymous, half the reason I'm able to talk about things on this app is that nobody knows it's me. It's comforting that I can anonymously talk about the things in my brain, that I keep to myself.

Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

I totally feel you! 😂 When someone asks me questions like "Can we talk?" internally I be like "idk, can we???" 👀😂 but nonetheless, I'd say it's best to be direct and just ask them in reply, "sure what would you like to talk about?" with full attention or eye contact (if in person). Because (and I say this in a hopeful manner) most times when people use a precursor of asking if they can start a specific conversation with you is because that subject means a lot to them and they desire to either get an answer or some kind of resolution with/from you. Now I say that "hopefully" because there are indeed people who literally be asking to talk but really want to start drama or simply talk aimlessly in a rant and really just want you to listen. And it's totally okay to be honest with them after they've made known to you what they want to talk about if you either are unsure how to respond, if you would like to talk about it at a later time, (but when you do this, always follow through with whatever later time you choose), or if you simply don't feel comfortable discussing that specific topic! And you can do any of these WITHOUT having to explain or over-explain why! And you know why? Because it's YOUR choice and technically you don't OWE anyone an explanation (assuming you're a responsible adult)🙌🏽! Many times growing up I felt like I had to always explain myself to people or else I thought they would get the wrong message or think poorly of my character. But when I started being more intentional with my communication with others, it already shows others that I care and I do my best to help others WHEN I CAN. And the times I am unable to help someone or need to prioritize my mental peace and health, I communicate that clearly, respectfully, and confidently! Because overall, you can't control what people think of you, all you can do is be authentically true to who you are and genuine with everything you do. True character speaks more volumes than occasional conversations. Hope that makes sense and gives you some encouragement for future conversations. You got this girl! 🙌🏽💯🎉

LittleMissFo...

Date posted: 18h

Thank you, before they said what it was I told them I'm a private girly. But if it's about ocd in the sense that they are worried that they have it or if I'm okay then it's fine, basically I don't like privage questions about myself but if they are more focused on the other person, like they are asking because they are wondering something about themself it's okay. They said they respected that but I'm worried they are making assumptions

moon0270

Date posted: 25w

Realised I have another compulsion

I actually didn't realise this til now because I just assumed it was a coping mechanism from when I was really young. But when I tend to get stressed out or overwhelmed, I'll often start talking out loud to myself (which mostly means just whispering to myself because if i spoke really loudly, my mom would hear me lol). But nowadays with my fear of being surveilled, I keep having to catch myself because it's such a habit at this point for me to whisper out loud. Especially with me trying to reason through my false memories or really bad intrusive thoughts. Another compulsion. And then I keep thinking omg did I have my phone with me when I said that. Is anyone watching me rn? What if this person (that probably doesn't even exist) thinks my thoughts are true? What would everyone else think? And then I spiral afterwards. It sucks because I feel like I'm policing myself even when I know these are all just things I'm saying out loud and they don't mean anything— they're just thoughts after all. But I have this worry that if someone overheard me or all of this was suddenly revealed, that it might change how people see me or people might hate me or think i'm a bad person. And then I worry about me being worried about that because then I ask myself would a good person be worried about this? Anyways, another long post with me waffling and rambling. Thank you for taking the time to read this ❤️‍🩹

Anonymousssssss

Date posted: 15w

Can I talk to someone?

I have something that’s been on my mind but my post isn’t getting any interaction. Only offer advice if you’re willing to respond please!!! People have asked me in the comments to share something and I do and they never answer which makes my mental even worse

sopaesco

Date posted: 13w

Being pushed aside [long vent]

I’m kind of frustrated because for YEARS I’ve been trying to express my concerns. For about 6-7 years I’ve been concerned about having OCD. I’m not diagnosed and I want to talk to a professional to confirm whether or not I have it. I have been struggling with several symptoms over many years of my life and it has been absolutely distressing. I’ve expressed my concerns to two doctors. One of them pretended like they didn’t hear me and the other did give me scenarios that I experience. When I said yes to the ones that applied to me, she said “well it’s very normal for people to wash their hands a lot and check door locks” well yeah but what I experience is so much more than that and it’s been absolutely horrendous. I have super bad compulsions and intrusive thoughts, at some point I broke a TV because I felt like I had to throw these little coasters at it for 5 times. And then after those 5 times, the way I threw it didn’t feel right, so I had to do it again and again until it felt right and then it broke :/ The doctor later told me that they can recommend me to professionals but my mom didn’t want me to because of fear that I can get medicated. But I just want to talk to a professional to be able to express my concerns about it. I also feel bad about talking about what I experience because I don’t want people to think that I’m trying to self diagnose myself. I just want to be able to recognize my struggles and try to overcome what I go through. All I want is help. At some point I went to therapy and I had three sessions and then my mom pulled me out. But in those sessions I haven’t talked about my struggles with OCD yet, I was talking about other issues and my therapist was still trying to get to know me. :( Sometimes when I’ve talked to my parents they don’t really try to listen. Sometimes they tell me “well everyone has a little bit of OCD”. Okay, well I’m not talking about everyone, I’m talking about ME. And back when I struggled so much with violent intrusive thoughts, it was also a time where I felt like I HAD to tell my parents about every thought that I had. And my parents were concerned and thought that I was just in general violent. But I’m not violent, I don’t believe these things. And they STILL don’t want to hear me out on my concerns after all of that. I just want to feel validated with what I go through. I am convinced that I struggle with OCD, but I want to be SURE. I don’t want to feel like I’m self diagnosing. I want to KNOW what I’ve been experiencing all these years. I really do like this app because I feel like I finally relate to other people and that I can REALLY talk about my struggles while being understood. Whether or not if I do have it, I feel really understood and I really understand and relate with others. But anyways I hope I can figure this whole thing out one day😓🙏

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