Religious ocd/relationships

I don’t really go on dates much but I just did this weekend and I’m stressed cuz I know it’s just a date but then idk if satan sent it cuz I don’t really like him but like I almost want to just cuz and I can’t force myself to like someone but then I also have avoidant attachment so it’s just confusing and then I’m so scared of relationships it makes me feel like it’s immoral also because religious ocd or if I’m not supposed to have one anyone else feel this way

G C

Date posted: Yesterday

Or pre marital hand holding/ kiss is a sin and if I need to repent like constant torture of my brain lol

G C

Date posted: Yesterday

It might be from religious trauma too like I used to think if I drank coffee I was going to hell

julianofnorwich

Date posted: Yesterday

I had this a lot too . Im going to try to date as well, it'll be a brand new exposure for me. I'll say this, in Genesis God say "it is not good for human to be alone ". You're desire for a partner is good and godly and right. Satan does not have the power to send you any dates dont fear that. God wants you to be happy !

Someone99

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: Yesterday

Hi, it's me again. Lol. Thank you for sharing on here, you're not alone. And it's good to have a community here to support and encourage each other. The desire for a relationship can be confusing as much as exciting, because all too often we enter a relationship for all the wrong reasons, so I definitely encourage you to be careful and I hope you may have people in your life who you can go to in these situations as well. God gives us His outline for what he describes as holy in a relationship. However, He also allows us to use our discernment as well. He's not going to squash us when we step outside the line, that's living under the law, not grace. But it's awesome that you're sensitive to God and desire God will for your life. So focus on that and pray God will bring a relationship with someone who will desire to build you up on your faith first and foremost. The man should lead in the area of holiness in a relationship, ideally. And I think you're an awesome young lady and will be a light to this dark world. :-)

G C

Date posted: Yesterday

@Someone99 Thank you. Yeah I would never wanna cross any boundaries that aren’t of God but also don’t want to feel like a not innocent person so I just avoid everyone I feel like and it seems so silly😂😂

Someone99

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23h

@G C Romans 8:1 is awesome, "There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit." Id encourage you to spend some time there, begin in Romans 7. I pray you can experience the grace of God in a new way today. I always pray for you, even when I don't respond to one of your posts. :-)

Someone99

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 23h

@G C Another thought, do you journal? It may be helpful to externalize your relationship with God through keeping a journal. Things like your questions, struggles, prayers.... It's amazing to see God answer that way. For me, OCD causes most confusion in the depth of my thoughts, so externalizing it always helps.

OCD 2319

Date posted: Yesterday

You are good soul mam don’t worry for this. This is not a sin i don’t have religion ocd. But i can completely understand your state of mind feel free with your thoughts in this world nothing is good or bad until it hurts someone everything is good. Thoughts comes and goes don’t worry about that

Argaman

Date posted: 25w

OCD making me avoid dating

At this point of my life I barely have compulsions, barely let them control me, but recently I have realised my OCD is still keeping itself alive by holding me back and making me avoid stuff since I cut compulsions. So I don’t do compulsions but I avoid. And when it comes to SO OCD, I avoid dating. I am in the age where it’s the most common thing to do, I have friends who are getting married and I still haven’t seriously dated my entire life. If I date I date to marry. But it’s making it even harder. My brain tells me I can’t date to marry or date at all because no man will accept the possibility that I am bisexual or the fact I might have intrusive thoughts over sexuality. Worse than that, what’s actually holding me back is the fact that in one of our dates I know I’ll have to bring this up. And what if the man will start to get stressed over it? What if it’ll be too much for him and he’ll leave? And worse-tell the people that know both me and him all the personal things I told him about me having SO OCD? I can’t do this.. I don’t want to do this to myself I don’t want to let go of this secret to any man who can just leave me because of it at any point.. that’s what’s holding me back from dating.. and I want to be brave, I want to just go for it, I want to let it go but am too afraid I am just selling myself and my darkest secrets out there for men who can cancel me at any moment. I gave up on dating… it’s all too complicated for me and I have this voice in the back of my head telling me maybe I wasn’t born for it. Maybe I wasn’t born to get married or be in a relationship, maybe I am not good enough for all of this.. and then OCD adds its own stuff.. maybe I am gay and dating would be lying to myself and the men I date.. too much responsibility..

savannahframe19

Date posted: 25w

ugh

i’m so scared to get into a relationship because i think i’m a avoidant attachment… like i have a fear of losing myself and being too attached to where i won’t love myself but love them more than i love myself… like i’m thinking about the guy i like and thinking about the opportunity to be with him but something tells me i’m gonna back away because of my ocd… i wanna love myself before i get into a relationship… especially this generation of relationships get me really anxious.. it’s like i wanna be in a relationship but i also don’t because of losing myself… i wanna have confidence in myself and like the person and have a relationship with God at the same time… i think i’m doing a compulsion which isn’t good because my ocd themes keep switching

Anonymous

Date posted: 14w

Religious OCD

I feel like a horrible person. I am in AA and this guy who is older than me but part of my community is funny to talk to sometime and I feel like I flirt sometimes? Anyways he invited me to go to Fourth of July things today and he was kind of flirting back and I immediately got uncomfortable… Here is why I feel uncomfortable… he is like 42 and he has a hunchback from an accident he sustained I believe and he is not the most attractive in my eyes… I feel horrible for even saying that and I feel horrible because brain said “you know if he was hot, you wouldn’t hesitate to go activities with him” My therapist and I talked about how we are influenced by the what the world tells us is beautiful or not, but I am feel like a TERRIBLE person. So now my ocd is saying that is not what God would want you to do or something like that and I feel in danger… Someone please tell me what to do… I am so ashamed

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