Is this an OCD compulsion?

Lately some of my compulsions have been a bit strange. Today I thought in my head “if I see a Subaru in the next 30 seconds, I’m a lesbian” and “if that girl walks in within the next 10 seconds I’m a lesbian” pretty weird ikr? Another one of my most common compulsions is imagining myself in sexual and romantic scenarios with a woman to make sure I dont like it, and sometimes it feels as if I do. I do the same with men, to make sure I still like it and still always get a positive reaction out of it. Another one of my compulsions (I do this for hours everyday) is posting on this app and reading HOCD and latebloomer lesbian subreddits and googling and using chat got. Anyone else struggle with this? Is this OCD? Btw, I haven’t been diagnosed yet, but do you think I would be diagnosed?

Justmesadly

Date posted: 5w

These are very common compulsions. Even asking if these are compulsions is a compulsion and you should resist them and asking . OCD doesn’t have to be a compulsion that everynperson does. It can be anything you’re doing to get rid of the thoughts or the anxiety they bring

JustAJesusLover

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 5w

Let me preface with this: I’m not judging anyone!!! I don’t believe in same sex relationships. But, I used to have the same problems as you when I didn’t not believe in it. I believed in Him, but I thought I was Bisexual. I eventually accepted the fact I might be. After my theme changed, I fell back into Christ’s arms. I knew exactly what I believed. I accepted that I didn’t accept being Bi anymore. I will say, and I tell everyone this: I have temptations. I will look at a woman and go ‘woah, she is very attractive.’ But do I indulge and enjoy these thoughts? No! Instead, i understand I’m having a temptation, and recognize that I will not let that thought take root, nor will I act on it. How do I know if I am indulging in that thought? I continue imagining it ON MY OWN FREE WILL. Not my OCD. I continue imagining it and I LIKE thinking about it. Don’t let your OCD trick you into thinking you like it. Stay strong!!! ♥️♥️♥️

lysbabyss

Date posted: 5w

#1 This definitely sounds like OCD. You are in the right place. Reach out, get therapy if you can, and try to get diagnosed. #2 As a bisexual girlie i do not think you are a lesbian. However; I know how hard it is to deal with these thoughts and feelings. Coming on here is hard because it can act as a compulsion, and me reassuring you is also acting as a compulsion, but sometimes you need that reassurance just to get through the day and to go to sleep at night. Getting diagnosed, getting on meds (or learn coping strategies and starting ERP if you don’t like meds) is going to help a lot with this. It has helped me immensely. #3 This is going to be a scary question, but what would happen if you were a lesbian? However would that make you feel? How would it impact your life? Sometimes, when we have OCD we have to let these thoughts sit with us, even thought it is scary and uncomfortable. That’s the basis of ERP (to my understanding i am not a doctor). I hope this helps and know you are not alone! You got this!

🫩

Date posted: 5w

@lysbabyss Thank you so much. I know that reassurance is terrible for OCD, but this truly will pull me out from an obsessive compulsive spiral for the night. I try to think about what’s wrong with being a lesbian, which scares me,and think that I’m just scared of never truly knowing, getting into a relationship with a guy and breaking his heart. It also just doesn’t feel like me. I’m confused when people say they are repulsed by the thoughts, because I’m just worried that those are my true self. Sometimes I get scared because I’m not repulsed by the thoughts. And here I go again. I need to stop venting, go to bed, and thankfully, I have an appointment with a psychiatrist on Friday. Thank you so much for your reply.

lysbabyss

Date posted: 5w

@🫩 Of course! The fact that you are not repulsed by these thoughts are not a sign you’re a lesbian, if anything it just means that you’re not homophobic which isn’t a bad thing, imo!

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