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Life is always uncertain and no one knows what is coming. This is the way of everything. Our worries can be like chains keeping us stuck. The worries become more important and then restrictions occur. No one knows for sure anything. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow is not here. If we spend all our time in the past or the future what’s available to live in the present moment ? If you’ve been in toxic relationships before and know any part you’ve played has contributed to that then it’s time for self reflection and to see where you can improve yourself. If it’s was other people that caused toxicity over and over the. It’s time to look at where you failed to have solid reliable boundaries. We place this emphasis on ourselves because the only thing we can do is look inward and see where we can improve protecting ourselves. Avoidance however isn’t necessarily the answer. Avoidance is being stuck. I’m not sure what kind of theory you’re doing but all you’ve just said then you should rbi g up with them too With ocd the thought arises we attach energy to it our worries and fears begin to come and we ruminate compulsively I ask people after are you a fortune teller or a wizard. What makes you believe the thoughts are all fully truthful and shouldn’t be questioned or doubted. Maybe there’s a toxic relationship to come and maybe not But you can’t have any by sitting on your hands and making it so making it impossible to find a good one if you’re already seeing it as only dark. And it’s a faulty mode of thinking This is coming from a man who had two 9 years relationships with toxic people. One was an unmanaged borderline and the other was a narcissist with super toxic tendencies If I had said to myself all relations to coen will be toxic guess what? It would Robby be so. I’d be scanning ever vigilant for danger or blind to it all and sink back into one. The truth is I can’t tell anyone’s mind. So I have to have some wisdom and watch for red flags and if they arise attempt to address them immediately. I’m in a relationship now with a lovely woman who is my whole world. I could never have found that if I closed all my doors and presumed my worries my fears were 100 percent true. They weeent and they’re not You go slow and you don’t jump in too fast. Then you can discover the person rather than create them.