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Community discussion: Stopping thought spirals š
Whatās your go-to move when you feel stuck ruminating? Share a tip that helps you step away from the spiral.
Whatās your go-to move when you feel stuck ruminating? Share a tip that helps you step away from the spiral.
My rumination usually stems from past mistakes and wondering what I couldāve done differently. To curb this, I confront the rumination head on and remind myself that this is OCD trying to problem solve and protect me. I give myself a few minutes to just sit with whatever feelings come up as a result of the rumination and remind myself that thereās nothing to figure out. Weāre all human, we all make mistakes, and we can accept that there isnāt always going to be a solution. AND THATāS OKAY. šš» ā¤ļø
@al01 Do you deal with guilt ? If so, how do you deal with it ? :)
@Turky29 Yes, I often deal with immense guilt. When it happens, I aim to recognize that it is just a feeling. & a very normal one at that! A little bit of radical self acceptance goes a long way hereā¦I might say something like, āThe situation was what it was & I accept that I cannot go back in time to fix or change it. Maybe I should feel guilty & or maybe I shouldnāt. I may never know for certain, and thatās okay.ā I also think that when a feeling of guilt arises, itās helpful to say, āThis is OCD trying to fix or solve a problem for me.ā & just trying to be mindful about the person that I want to become and what I truly value! Remember, OCD is the ādoubting disorderā and when we have doubt, weāre inclined to feel guilt & fear. But youāre stronger than you think! Donāt give into the guilty feelings. It never does us any good. š
@al01 I once thought I was the only one who experienced this. Thanks for sharing such a beautiful perspective.
@luna92 I did too! This community is great at connecting us all so that we can realize just how not alone we are after all! Thank you for taking the time to read my post. ā¤ļø
@al01 Wow this was beautifully said - thank you the the love and support!
@al01 Thank you so much ! This helped a lot because usually my guilt is so intense I need to confess to my partner because I feel like if I donāt heāll be hurt
@Turky29 I totally relate to this! The urge to confess is such a challenging compulsion to navigate. Thinking of you along this journey and hoping we can both find our ability to truly accept the uncertainty & discomfort.
@wonder Always! ā¤ļø
@al01 Txs for sharing
Woah. Despite years of therapy and successful OCD treatment, I had never consider what I just heard from your words. "It's trying protect me." This is a theme in my life. Every thought, every action has been rooted in: am I safe? Does that person think I am worthy of their time and attention. I am grateful for the new perspective. I have seen the safety seeking and the need for external validation: which I am grateful and am healing from. I did not connect this to OCD, however. But I can see the potential now. And I think I can find gratitude for this part of my brain. It is a part of me. And it needs a hug. Love to all. Here's to hope, growth, and self love. And to this community and some kick butt therapists. I need you.
@Erik & we need you! DEFINITELY hug that part of your brain. Itās like a confused, scared, whiney little minion that just wants to keep us safe. But the thing is, WE ARE ALREADY SAFE, because our thoughts are just thoughts and they donāt have to hurt us. That piece on radical acceptance & just letting them be there teaches the brain that those thoughts donāt need to have power over us. Weāre in the driverās seat! Keep going, Erik. Youāre doing great. šš»
I'm still trying to figure it out myself.
Acknowledge that the original thought is a pattern of OCD. And then confront the thought with āthis thought can be here, but it does not mean anything nor do I have to interact with it.ā Then I move to a different activity
@Morethanocd Ooooo I like this one! Acknowledgment of the original thought is such as simple thing, but something I never really thought about!
@al01 Thatās why OCD gets me initially until I recognize what set me off! Iām so glad it resonated with you!
LOVE THIS!
Get my body moving
(when the compulsion itself is moving-) or retracing your steps
Doing a crossword puzzle!
Bringing awareness to the rumination and then trying to do a meditation instead.
@manny āthat sounds really awful, count me in!ā Thatās a great one!ā¤ļøš
Watching a good movie
I told my therapist that when I get overwhelmed in a thought or a ritual I just wanna scream. So she said do it, just scream, sometimes thatās a good way to break away from the cycle.
@KDPreston Iāve wanted to try this but in the back of my head Iām scared itās gonna turn into a compulsion Iāll try it any way I feel like Iāll feel so much better since it kind of brings awareness to the fact that itās not you itās OCD
Put the screens away and hang out with other people. Connecting socially makes me entirely forget what was making me so stressed out about
i recently learned the 5 4 3 2 1 method, itās good to try! it doesnāt always work for me every time but definitely helps. i also learned to just leave the room i was in. like if im sitting on the couch and cant stop ruminating then i am taught to change my environment, get up and get a glass of water or something.
@char101 THIS!!!
Labeling the thoughts as OCD thoughts and trying my best to let them be there without trying to solve them
Mindfulness- using my 5 senses to notice the present moment around me
Recognize the ruminating/compulsive behavior, then do my best to step away. Show myself kindness by saying something like: itās okay, itās just a misstep, we will try again.
Mine is about the future usually and I try to acknowledge it and just move on
Love this! OCD rarely wants us present. It wants us stuck in the past and future. Staying present is the goal.
write it down !
@LauraBaci7 Thatās a good one š
A yoga , meditation session along with some cardio . Also listening to podcasts
When Iām caught in a OCD thought spiral I just stop momentarily and remind myself that Iām in the here and now and then look at my surroundings and take note of how my vitals feel. Everything ALWAYS checks out and tells me that OCD is a liar.
Doing a cross word puzzle is a good one , Iām thinking that anything to exercise the brainās cognitive, logic and reasoning can be very helpful -
Letting myself feel the anxiety without diving in deeper!
LOVE THIS!
Telling it to shut up and what ever I think isnāt going to happen or call it a name ,I named mine bingnutš
Love this! Helps me right now...
Reminding myself every experience is unique and there is no rule that allows one to predict the future
Putting on music I love and moving my body to it even just in my chair while working. Gets me out of my head better than most things.
Getting up and moving! It can be hard, but Iāll take my dog for a walk, go work out, or continue wedding planning. Sometimes I plan a future trip to get my mind to calm down.
Calling it out "hey I've already gone over this. I'm going to focus on xyz"
When I catch myself ruminating I simply say to myself - your thinking again, and that can interrupt it. I then have to move toward and activity, like watching a show, taking a walk, working, listening to a Podcast, etc. It can be so easy to get wrapped up in those stories, but they are never helpful.
What helps me to stop ruminating is journaling. It helps me to understand things better and to get focused on positive things.
Pattern interruption works for me; when I am ruminating I am usually also pacing incessantly. Going to the grocery store or somewhere out of the house helps. It seems that I am pattern interrupting a LOT though.
Anything with arts and crafts can get me out of a thought spiral!
Sometimes I tell myself, āwell, maybe it will happen, maybe it wonātā to help me accept uncertainty about future events, or remind myself that I canāt know what I canāt know or canāt control whatās out of my hands when it comes to other things
Depends on the thought because certain ones give me a huge amount of anxiety which causes them to stay longer and be more consistant but what does help is trying to be busy as possible and telling myself its my ocd not real
@AngeArt Or i just keep taking hydroxyzine at night to relax me and help me sleep and usually iāll forget about it after a few nights
Still working on it, but exercise
Window shop on line and do any kind of activity to keep my mind from spiraling
Drawing or reading.
Love, if is something that enjoy or I love, I'm just focus in love, and no matter what trying to enjoy the memont and reminder myself I'm strong āØš„¹šš»
Moment*
Saying my conclusion really powerfully in my head 3 times shaking my head and snapping out of it. And if it tries to pop back up for another merry go round I just say heck no and like blink. The blinking sounds weird but there is power in movement. But by shaking my head and blinking when it pops up Iām able to distract myself just enough to put it aside and move on before the full thought finishes and leads to more rumination.
If I have a harm thought episode, rather than ruminating over it I say to myself, "Am I doing it now? Am I plotting to do it? Do I have a choice?" This helps a great deal.
Grounding exercises
I sit on the floor and breathe. Sometimes physical touch helps me ground if I'm in a deep loop. I find peace. I can feel my heart rate drop. I can do this alone, but sometimes if I'm really fragile from lack of sleep, food, water, connection, any self care, I need that hand. If there is no physical hand, I call a loved one or get on here at chat with this community.
I like to breathe - meditate
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