social media opinions

Before I start, one thing about social media: People often post bad takes masquerading as good advice because the viewers who agree share them, and those who disagree comment on them. It's an engagement hack that's destroying society. I think both things you quoted are not good general advice. I feel like a lot of older people are tempted to think that's good advice because it's what they did. Often, after the fact, they realized they were in a worse situation. Or, once they met someone else, they realized how bad the first relationship was. Some people are dumber in their 20's than others. I'd ask you: Did you date people before this relationship? How did this relationship start? And for the second question, I want to bring up my first relationship: I did leave the person I dated in my early 20's. We met in college. I had some kind of OCD where I was totally convinced that I'd end up alone forever. So, I dated the first person who showed interest and I found attractive. I was so relieved to be in a relationship for the first time. I convinced myself that everything was perfect even though there were a ton of red/yellow flags. I convinced myself I'd marry this girl. And, honestly she was an alright person. Maybe we'd still be together if we'd both done a little psychiatry, and I had gotten sleep apnea treatment and my appendix removed. (chronic appendicitis and sleep apnea kept me from taking ADHD meds, and I didn't know I was autistic yet). She definitely had/has something going on, maybe ADHD. Her family stressed me out like crazy. There was never not yelling. I think if you were smarter than I was about starting your relationship, you should ignore these social media opinions. Now I feel like the healthy start to a relationship feels like having a friend you fall in love with. It shouldn't start because it relieves your anxiety for being alone, or because of intense physical attraction. Both of those cloud your judgement. I'd need to know more to be sure, but based on what you wrote so far, I don't see any evidence that your judgment is biased.