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vampireswillneverhurtyouvampireswill...
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Hello! As a women, it doesn’t sound like you were being overly intrusive or creepy at all :) Everyone reacts differently to different things so I can’t tell you for sure how she feels, but it wouldn’t hurt to keep having casual conversations with her to get a better idea of how she may feel and it would help ease a bit of your anxiety around her as well.
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@vampireswillneverhurtyou Thank you so much for the reply I’m so curious from women’s perspective how would women like being approached I’m sure it’s different for every women but it’s tough because she’s a barista and I’m thinking what do I do next or say next it’s hard too because I’m nervous and don’t want her coworkers making me feel nervous too lmao. I feel like something is there between us but I can’t read her entirely and for casual conversations I need to figure out what do I say next. I was thinking of saying hi again and telling her, “ hey when I got your name I forgot to introduce myself and tell you my name…” but then from there my mind blank can’t think of anything else to say without it being “awkward”
vampireswillneverhurtyouvampireswill...
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@RememberWhoYouAre. Personally, I think just a casual and gentlemanly approach like you’ve been thinking of is the best because it doesn’t put any pressure on her and doesn’t come across badly in any circumstance. Don’t worry too much about being “awkward” because from experience, me and all my other girl friends find that endearing when being approached and it comes off as less intimidating lol. Asking her a casual question afterwards is good option. Even something about the weather, even though it sounds corny, is a good way to ease into the conversation even if it seems “awkward” at first. :)
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@vampireswillneverhurtyou I got nervous lmao…. I still haven’t told her my name yet. Was gunna ask her what’s her favorite song or something along the lines as what’s a song you been listening to lately.. i had a moment with her today but since there’s others there and it was too quiet I didn’t want others to hear me fumble lmao. I’m sure she knows I like her. Plus she hasn’t asked my name yet I wonder why she might be shy herself or really not interested in me and I could be completely wrong about her. I heard her the other day asking another customer that she never got her name and I thought that was interesting but around me it’s a lot of smiles and micro smiles and I been progressing but feeling more and more nervous now
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Recognizing that you feel anxious about whether she likes you or not is completely normal. People with OCD often struggle with uncertainty, and situations like this can feel especially overwhelming. My father once taught me that many of the things we fear turn out not to be as frightening once we face them. It’s rarely the end of the world. Right now, you simply don’t know how things will turn out with this girl, and that’s okay. If she isn’t the right one, in time you will meet someone who is. For now, give yourself permission to breathe, take things one step at a time, and let the situation unfold naturally.
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Hi I’m a woman . Here is what most women want even if they are shy. Introduce yourself first, ask her name , compliment her , she makes the best coffee , is very pretty etc… Then ask her out . If she says no then you have your answer , nothing more to obsess over. If she says yes , ask to take her out that night or have a second time to propose. Then plan the date, be a gentleman, open her door, pay for the date . No dates at home , take her somewhere . Can’t go wrong with dinner on a first date . Pick somewhere that maybe does something interactive that has trivia or bingo night . Go somewhere in your budget so you don’t feel overwhelmed about the bill. Women like when men take initiative and have confidence. It doesn’t come off creepy . Side note, as long as you aren’t staring at her from across the room all time . Staying there all hours and truly being creepy then she doesn’t find it weird that you come in to the coffee shop often. Most women like to be admired, we like a little attention(good attention) . A guy told me he liked my shirt at the gym a few days ago . I don’t think he’s a creep for it. Now we say hi to each other . Nothing romantic but in a friendly manner . It’s ok to be friendly and not creepy. Humans are naturally social creatures
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