Overthinking of girl cheating w/o any evidence..

Goodmorning y'all. I have always had trust issues due to past relationships and I have been seeing this wonderful little lady for a little over two months but i have actually known her for over ten years (we used to date back in the day but then she moved to texas and now she is back and we rekindled right away) ANYWAYS! how can i get over my constant worry that she is talking to/seeing someone else!? she has literally not given me a single reason to believe she is but my mind just keeps playing all these scenarios in my head. she's a good girl and i know her well there's a whole story behind us but i won't get into all that unless y'all want a novel lol.. i don't ever flat out accuse her of anything but i'll admit i do ask her for reassurance more times that i'd like to admit and i fear that it will eventually drive her away.. someone please help!! i don't want to lose this girl❤️

Teeter

Date posted: 2d

Is she aware of the fact that you have OCD and that it’s been causing this constant stress? If she does, she might be able to provide support in ways to help remind you that things are okay. I’ve never been in a relationship before, but I can imagine myself being in this very scenario if I ever end up in one. So, by all means feel free to continue reading this or just not take this advice. If you do decide to keep reading, I do apologize beforehand for how much I wrote. Please remember that I’m no therapist. What I wrote is just is just insight that I’ve gathered from personal experience that I’m still trying to implement in my life. OCD can be hell! As hard and incredibly frustrating as it is, the main thing that I can think of right now is that when you experience yourself worrying, try telling yourself that that’s a possibility that you’re just going to have to accept. It’s all about accepting the uncertainty. It can get really hard when your OCD gets creative and starts creating scenarios about the implications of choosing to let go of this worry. THAT’S OKAY. You’re NOT at fault for feeling this way. Your brain is just fighting you and screaming at you to not move on and to keep obsessing about it. It seems like you really care about this girl, and you want to make sure that you’re protecting yourself from any future hurt when it comes to forming and developing relationships with people. I commend you for that. 👏 Give yourself grace. Try to allow yourself to treat yourself with self compassion. As you mentioned, part of the reason why you’re having trust issues is because of how past relationships went. That sucks. I’m sorry to hear that you had to go through that. Obviously, I can’t imagine what that was like. Keep on being you and showing up. It’s going to take time before you start noticing any meaningful progress. You’re stronger than you think, you just got to try and remind yourself of that. I believe in you and hope that things get better for you. 🙂❤️

ZJSreptiles

Date posted: 2d

@Teeter i appreciate that a lot thank you

Teeter

Date posted: 2d

@ZJSreptiles No problem, I hope that you’re able to sort things out :)

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