Today I got drunk after work with my friends and I do not drunk alcohol at all, but I feel like I did something horrible even tho I did not. And would never. I think my relationship ocd is coming up and I am scared I did somethinh awful that would hurt my beautifil girl. Can someone reassure me because I am scared to death… I never want to hurt her, I love her more than anything.
I'm sure you didn't do anything. So don't worry about it, and just move on. For example, OCD will tell us that when we're driving that we've run over people with our car. And we haven't done anything!! Just because you got drunk, doesn't mean that you did anything bad. In fact, you know deep down that you didn't. And we all know that you didn't. It's just the OCD. . So you need to apply ERP to the situation. Getting drunk was the trigger. But now you must NOT ENGAGE in any compulsions. That means you should not confess anything to your girl. In fact, you should not do anything at all. Just move on with your life as if nothing happened. Because in reality, nothing did happen. Don't let the OCD trap into compulsions. You got this!
@Tea and Honey Me and my coworkers went for a drink, and when me and my older coworker were having a laugh about something, I glanced the waitress was also smiling (she must of heard us). I never said a word to her, neither I wanted to but the guilt is consuming me. I told my girl about it and she really did not care.
I too deal with a lot of anxiety around drunk moments where I feel like don’t know if I did something to hurt my partner. I love my partner so so much and I’m so terrified of doing anything that could hurt him. I love him so much and I sometimes feel sick to my stomach while trying to do ERP around those fears. I’m so sorry you’re going through these hard emotions!
The first rule is to not give reassurance. Why don't you ask your girlfriend and, if so, just apologize and move on.
@Steven55! Apologize for what?
@ocdbelowzero - If she says you offended her in some way while you were drunk, just apologize and, then, let it go. (And quit drinking.)
@Steven55! she does not, it is the what if’s
@ocdbelowzero Then don't worry about it. You've already answered your WHAT-IF. Just tell yourself it's only OCD and move on.
You cannot say for certainty that you did nothing wrong, nor that you would never
@notthereyet I have ocd and I know it’s tricks but I would certainly not do anything bad
@ocdbelowzero Don't reason with OCD. Don't try to figure things out. It's only a trap. You will just get more and more entangled. Make the decision right now that you are going to do ERP in the situation. That means you let it go and move on with your life. And you choose not to engage in any compulsions.
@Tea and Honey When it comes to OCD, we have to stop all reasoning and trying to figure things out. I know it's always tempting to disentangle what's within our brains. We thibk we need to do that. However, we have to make the cut and dry decision to practice ERP without figuring things out or trying to untangle the mess
@Tea and Honey The truth is that we could never disentangle what's in our brains. It'll always be knotted up and a mess. That's why we have to just leave it alone and make the decision to do ERP.
@ocdbelowzero You care about girlfriend, and ocd is creating doubt. You will be fine. I know that it is hard, but you will be fine.
@notthereyet I want her to be fine and loved.
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