OCD and breakups

I’m so sorry to hear that they said that to you. That’s insensitive for them to say something like that. I want you to know none of us are perfect. Don’t beat yourself up or try to prove your worth to yourself because you are priceless!

I am so sorry that your ex-fiance said that to you. That does not sound like a supportive partner at all. You deserve someone who is going to meet you where you are at, no matter how you may be doing mentally at the moment. True love is for better or for worse. Please remind yourself that you are human and you are allowed to have ups and downs. You are not the problem, so please have grace with yourself. You need to get better for yourself, not for anyone else or to prove it for anyone else. When having intrusive thoughts, I try to tell myself that they are intrusive thoughts, and I am going to let them pass, I will think about them later. Then I try to distract myself until they eventually go away. I’m still learning and practicing how to do this, I am definitely not perfect at it and have many moments of failure. I am so glad that your family and friends are supportive! Definitely lean into that. It’s really hard having OCD and not having people understand exactly how we feel. That’s why I really love this app and getting to talk to people who get it. Be kind to yourself, show yourself grace, and stay strong. You are a strong person and can do this. I’m rooting for you!

I went through a divorce about 5 years ago. My wife couldn't understand my OCD nor was she supportive. She used to tell me "shut up about it already!!". If only she knew that I couldn't. I've now been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 4 years and she's not only supportive but actively cares about my health and well being. Somebody I can talk to and somebody who listens. This world is filled with a lot of people and when I look back I realize that everything happens for a reason. Had i never gotten divorced, I may have lived a miserable existence and never met someone who cares. I hope this helps. Keep your head up. God bless

Be thankful he showed his true colors BEFORE you got married. You deserve better.

Thank you for the kind words and advice I’m still learning, some days are harder than others and I will get better for me today was a low day but being here and being able to communicate with people that know what is like has helped Thank you!

Oh wow, that sounds so hard:(:( Now that he's not in the picture, you can focus on yourself. If he can't be faithful, then he is the problem--not you. Now if the time to focus on yourself. Have you ever been in therapy? Have you tried ERP?