Hi everyone! I’m new to the community and trying to understand relationship ocd. I want to know what others experience, to understand myself better, but to also feel some validation in it. Sometimes I feel like it’s all I can do is ruminate about my relationships.. with my partner, friends, and family.. but my romantic relationships are the hardest…
My experience is usually around my romantic partner, but through therapy I've discovered that it's indeed all my relationships too. How I experience it. My thoughts dwell to scenarios that make me uncomfortable about them and then constant rumination, seeking reassurance, the usual things you try to do to find comfort but feeds te cycle. I'm sorry you too have this, it's not fun.
@RaineTrain Thank you so much for this. I am wondering do you have any specific thoughts that come up? I see a lot of people who question if the relationship is right for them, based on how they feel about the other person. Mine manifests as I am not good enough, then leads to reassurance seeking. Is that something you’ve experienced?
@bmdashe Yes. I won't say my specific thoughts. But it's like feeling if it's right or that I've lost feelings. The thoughts are followed by a sinking feeling in my body and then I spiral and panic. Which indicates my ocd is acting up
It seeps into every relationship pretty much. Mostly towards my boyfriend now that I’m in a relationship, but also my friends and worrying about how I said something, if they’re not telling me something and it’s just nonstop. It’s also seeped into my workplace. And i’m not sure if this was relationship OCD but for a year, I avoided anything romantic because I was just sure that no matter what I did, I would be doomed, the relationship would fail, just like all my other relationships,, And that maybe I was just meant to be alone romantically. Now that I’ve gone through therapy though, I can notice when my thoughts are OCD and I’ve made my OCD it’s own person. His name is Steve and he’s very convincing, very analytical, very unforgiving, and very quick to ask a question “what if?” Now I’ve been practicing just acknowledging that Steve is in the room, or with me, or telling me things that aren’t true. Some days are good, but when my OCD is very loud, it’s overwhelming.
I made a post last night about my experience!
@paigefritz Thank you so much for sharing this! I am going to go read it now! ♥️
Mine is around my friends. I get these toughts that they secretly all hate me and that I’ve done something very wrong that nobody talks to me about.. That then makes me overthink all my interractions with them, what I said and did and how everyone reacted. It happens with so many situations, ones where there wasn’t even a chance for me to do anything bad! Then I also seek reassurance and act super nice to them because ”I dont’t want them to hate me more.” I act super overly nice and weird sometimes with them, and I am so glad I was able to open up about these things to them. I told them sometimes I feel like it’s not me whos acting weird and that it’s someone else, that I’m just watching someone act weird.. They understood me so well and said that they now get why I act how I do sometimes. They understood that it’s not my fault I have compulsions like that and they will remember that!! :) I was so glad I was able to open up about my OCD to them, now we are much closer and they all understand me a lot better. This year I’m working on getting help for my OCD and focusing on relaxing & positive thinking in my toughts. :)
I just made a post about my experience! I hope it can help you a little if you’re willing to read, I’m also new to this app.
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