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What does your therapist say when you feel in a spiral? Typically the advice is to remember thoughts are just thoughts, we can allow them to exist without latching on. Purity culture did a number on all of us. If I could go back, I would have tried to wait if that’s what we wanted, but focus on my faith overall more. My hyperfocus on the grey area of what was too far never helped. (I’m not at all advocating for you to start engaging in porn, or to just throw out waiting for marriage, but the crazy focus on whether you have sex or not is super unhealthy). And in this case, You are focusing on something that sounds literally out of your control (seeing those images briefly, maybe) and probably correctly identifying it as ocd. If there are what ifs and this level of anxiety, it’s probably ocd.
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@ocdbelowzero I would say you might benefit to talking to some slightly more progressive Christian’s about purity (or reading a book like the great sex rescue - I haven’t read it but have heard good things). Thumbnails aren’t going to change anything. Imagine what you’d do in your day if you hadn’t see those and act accordingly. Sure the thoughts can be there but live by your values regardless
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One of the things I realized with faith and ocd is that if I spent all this time worrying over sinning, the larger sin was the worry but also that God put me here to do good and not to sit around worrying (Jesus didn’t do this) so how can I create goals and actionably go after them even if those thoughts decide to tag along
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@ocdbelowzero I once heard from a pastor that my great concern about being a Christian and fear over not going to heaven probably indicated that I was in the group going. Now, I don’t really subscribe to the Calvinist predestination theology entirely, BUT consider that perhaps people with ocd wouldn’t be quite so worried if ocd weren’t preying on their deepest values. I’ve had relationship ocd as well and when I finally dug deep enough I realized it was because I so so so deeply valued the relationship and concepts of marriage and purity. And once I realized that, I was able to let go of some of the obsessions around it (no not all of them, I still get to practice my erp muscle) and chill the f out. there was some relief when I let myself out of the mental prison that religion did give me the tools for and ocd the blueprint but I ALWAYS had the key out with erp ❤️
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@ocdbelowzero Good work identifying the feeling and compulsion. What’s the next step in erp? (Hint: allowing it to be there, perhaps saying “so what?” “That’s just a thought” “okay”) Making it right is giving in to ocd and a works based religion which Jesus did not teach
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@ocdbelowzero Also: if you don’t see it on purpose, and if you moved away from them once you identified what they were, could this just be an accident? Why does it have to be fixed/rectified? Especially if you aren’t pursuing it again? (Rhetorical questions for you to consider)
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