Venting

Hello everyone! It's been a while I don't post anything here. I spent the end of the year with my boyfriend, two weeks. Saying goodbye was the saddest thing, we cried so much because we will only be able to see each other after a few months. I think I never imagined crying so much in a queue to get to the plane in all my life. I didn't have troubles today. But the day I was coming back, a friend sent a message saying that she removed the congratulations for my new relationship because she heard that my boyfriend is not from my church. When I heard her voice message, I felt disconcerted. I had only a few hours with my boyfriend, had to look for my boarding gate, it was past midnight and we were so tired. Even after telling her that I was coming back home at that moment, she kept saying things like this and that I should think about my life. That was like punch, really. I never regretted so much opening my messages. Today I finally could rest, talk to some people, but I think I felt it more because I had some spare time and also, my sister ignored me completely. She was angry because I haven't been talking a lot to my father since we had a problem 6 months ago. He used to help us financially, but as I don't agree with him politically, he got really offended and assumed I had the opposite political view as hum. So, that month, he simply cut the help he usually gave to both of us completely, without previous notice, and he told my sister that he would only send help if I apologized. I told him I did nothing wrong and I wouldn't apologize for anything. Since then, I pay almost all the bills of the house alone. I had so many problems last year, so when my boyfriend and I decided to travel to meet, I only told my mom and I took a little while to tell my sister, but I didn't tell my father because he doesn't live with me, he no longer helps with anything, and I wouldn't ask for his permission. Also I didn't want more drama. So, my sister got really upset when I told her about my trip. My boyfriend is the sweetest person in this world. I usually worked everyday, every single day. I think for more than a year and a half, I didn't have holidays or a long time off. I was really happy with him, this time felt like honeymoon. I'm so glad we could spend this time together. I was so happy that I started posting some pictures of us. After this, my nightmare started. First I started receiving message from people, random people from church asking me before anything else if he was also from church. He isn't. Then, two days before coming back, my sister sent me a message saying that my father was very upset and that she told him that she didn't know about me and didn't want to know anything about me and that I should have consciousness of the things I was doing. I told her we could talk when I arrived home and I didn't say anything else. Then, when I was at the airport, I received that message from this friend removing her congratulations for my relationship and telling me that I should think about my life. The only people who knew details about my relationship were my mom, my other friend and my sister. My other friend said that she didn't tell the details, so the one who told the voicemail friend about it was my sister. When I arrived home, my sister ignored me completely. I went to sleep, worked, but today, after working, I could call my friend and tell her about the other friend's audio. After the call, I heard those audios again and it was not good for me. So I posted in all my social medias a feel texts. For example: Mat. 11:28, 30 - Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest... For my yoke is easy and my burden is light". Isaiah 42:3 - "A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not snuff out. In faithfulness he will bring forth justice". Matthew 9:13 - "But go and learn what this means: 'I desire mercy, not sacrifice.' For I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners." Luke 6:47 - "Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven." I hope people stop, really. I'm just venting

Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

goodness I’m sorry. I only have an outside perspective but to me it feels like the people from church are being a bit too vocal about their opinion regarding your life. I am also a church goer and feel that when the Bible says not to be unequally yoked with nonbelievers, that probably includes our future spouse. However, I’ve seen believers who have married nonbelievers, and those nonbelievers later come to Christ. So I don’t think it’s wise to make another believer feel ashamed or upset for dating a non believer, as is your situation. God will work with you and guide you through your season; only He sees the whole picture. Also sounds like a really difficult situation with your father and sister; I applaud you for paying your own bills and standing up for yourself. Personally, I get really affected by what others say to me and how they treat me. With OCD, it’s even harder. I hope you’re dealing with it well. The only advice I can give is to lean on God and ask Him for help when things are really hard. That’s the only way I’ve gotten through the hardest times in life. You got this!

Anonymous

Date posted: 16h

It was a a very long and distressful day, but these words really encouraged me, thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏 my boyfriend gave me a lot of support through the day, my anxiety was reaching the ceiling. I met my father today for lunch, my sister was there, and I told how I felt about all these things. I thought it would help, but I felt like I was talking to a wall. I cried so much, most of my day. But then I resolved to talk to my church priests to explain what's happening and they read, prayed and talked with me, it made me feel better. It's really difficult to deal with it all, but I hope people learn that they are no one's judges. I have faith God is my witness. I have faith he will be merciful with me because I do my best to be merciful with others. I hope people learn it. Thank you so much for taking some time to read and to answer, I really appreciate. Thank you for your encouragement 🙏🙏🙏

Anonymous

Date posted: 9h

@Anonymous you know, I’ve experienced something similar. I’ve felt like I was simply talking to a wall with my parents too when I was trying to be honest about how I felt. But that’s what made me learn that God is truly the only one we can really rely on. Perhaps these things hppen to us so we can get closer to God! As a result of my experiences, I’ve discovered many personal traits that were holding me back - people pleasing, fear of man, etc. It was so painful to feel like I had no person to rely on, but it also allowed me to grow out of some of my least favorite traits. I also think that perhaps the devil uses these situations to attack us. But I think at the end of the day, all this refines us… and if the devil wants to attack us that bad - well, must mean there’s something about us that really threatens Him :) so hang in there. You’re much stronger than you think, and with Jesus, we can do absolutely anything!

nae nae

Date posted: Yesterday

Good on you for sticking to your beliefs and morals! I'm sorry that it's caused issues with your father and sister, though. You shouldn't need to apologize, and it's also crazy that he didn't give you prior notice before cutting off any financial assistance :( You're doing great with paying most of the bills, though, especially with no notice. I know it's probably added pressure and responsibility, but you're doing the right thing by standing up for yourself. I'm not religious, though a lot of my family is. I don't understand why they're trying to involve themselves in not only your relationship but your personal life as a whole. I know people who prefer to date within their religion, and I know people who don't care if their partner is religious or not. It shouldn't matter. Love who YOU love. Not who other people approve or not approve of. I hope things settle down soon. You deserve to be happy 🫂🩷

Anonymous

Date posted: 16h

Thank you so much 🥺🥺🥺🙏🙏🙏 my boyfriend is the sweetest person I've met, I love him so much. People were really intrusive and unkind. I think they enjoy judging others or making others feel bad, but I know God enough to know that this is not his commandmend. I won't let them bring me down any longer. Thank you for reading and answering 🙏🙏🙏 I will take your advice and keep loving who I love. Thank you

nae nae

Date posted: 12h

@Anonymous Of course! I wish the both of you all the best! :)

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