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. . . . . . So me and my bf like watching adult videos. Thing is he watches it way more than me. Like an excess amount, to the point where it’s unhealthy. I talked to him about it, and he acknowledged the fact that it was bad so he stopped gradually. I still overthink about it though about his past. I feel horrible and paranoid. I have obsessive compulsive disorder of course, MDD with psychotic symptoms, GAD, and C-PTSD. I was also sexually abused as well. I just want to forget. It’s all I want

hannahstobbe09

Date posted: Yesterday

I have experienced the same thing and over think about my boyfriends past too, I’m here to talk and I don’t know if I will be helpful but I will try my hardest

SugarCookiessᰔ

Date posted: Yesterday

@hannahstobbe09 Thank you I appreciate it very much. I just don’t know how to cope

hannahstobbe09

Date posted: Yesterday

@SugarCookiessᰔ What I do may not be the greatest, but constant reassurance, be open with eachother and really prioritize communication both ways, and other than that find a show you really like with nothing to do with that and watch it whenever you are stressing out

hannahstobbe09

Date posted: Yesterday

I have also been sexually abused and it sucks but eventually you will start to gain trust in people again, I’m still working on it so I can’t talk but I’m trying and I believe in you, everyone is messed up in their own little way, we just have fun stories to tell in the future is how I see it

SugarCookiessᰔ

Date posted: Yesterday

@hannahstobbe09 My bf did change for the better but I still see it here and there he has ADHD like rlly bad so he gets hung up on stimulating things like adult videos

SugarCookiessᰔ

Date posted: Yesterday

@SugarCookiessᰔ I’m just scared to be honest

hannahstobbe09

Date posted: Yesterday

@SugarCookiessᰔ I get that a lot, my boyfriend uses it as a coping mechanism and has had some brain surgeries which make him not think before acting for stimulation sometimes and I now have stuff on his phone to help like safesearch that me and his best friend set up even thought that sounds pretty extreme. I still see it in how he acts to and I’m so sorry you have to be going through this, I’m here to talk about it whenever though and I would just encourage you to talk to him about it because I also used to be addicted and I know that it takes time, but the temptation lessens when there’s a reason to be stopping

hannahstobbe09

Date posted: Yesterday

@SugarCookiessᰔ It can be very scary but in the end communication is the key part of a healthy relationship, and sometimes scary things and potential fights are the risk you have to take to better the relationship, me and my boyfriend have had a lot of “talks” in the car because that’s our spot to be open, find a spot where you guys can be vulnerable and one day you’ll find the courage or he might too

SugarCookiessᰔ

Date posted: Yesterday

@hannahstobbe09 I already talked to him and he’s pretty insecure about it but he stopped because he loves me but I’m still worried about it though just the past is scaring me that’s all

hannahstobbe09

Date posted: Yesterday

@SugarCookiessᰔ That’s great, but hey think about it this way, worrying is a sign that you really love him, the past will always be scary, but just try to live life in the present and whenever you feel scared about the past, text him, I always just randomly tell him I love him and him saying it back is enough in that moment to reassure me that everything is going to be okay

SugarCookiessᰔ

Date posted: Yesterday

@hannahstobbe09 Alright sounds good thank you for supporting me

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