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First, let me start with a powerful truth: “The truth will set you free.” Why this matters is because OCD is a condition built on doubt, distorted perceptions, lies, and mental traps. The good news is this: healing from OCD is possible. Once you understand how OCD works, it loses its power over you. All OCD themes operate in the same way—regardless of the topic. Common OCD themes (among many) • Relationship OCD (ROCD) – intrusive doubts and a compulsive need for reassurance in relationships • Sexual Orientation OCD (SO-OCD) – intrusive doubts driven by anxiety, not desire • Harm OCD – intrusive thoughts about causing harm, despite no intent • Contamination / Health OCD – fears about illness or bodily sensations leading to checking or reassurance The topic changes. The pattern does not. Let me explain OCD using a powerful acronym: T.R.A.P. T — Thought (Intrusive Thought) A doubt hits and feels urgent and convincing. “I need reassurance in my relationship right now.” Your mind goes into full bla bla bla mode—loud, repetitive, demanding attention. R — Response (Engagement) You engage with the thought. You start scanning your feelings and your relationship. Anxiety rises and feels unbearable. A — Assurance (False Certainty-Seeking) You feel compelled to ask your husband for reassurance. You need him to say the “right” thing so the anxiety will stop. P — Peace (That Never Lasts) Anxiety drops briefly after reassurance. Relief feels real, but it doesn’t last.Soon the doubts return, stronger than before. You see, our minds work like computer programs. When we give the brain a command, it runs automatically. For example: “I must seek reassurance to feel less anxious.” Each time you follow that command, the brain repeats the same programming. The way to break the cycle is not by fixing the thought, but by not responding to it. When you notice the urge and choose to move on to something else, the brain begins to learn a new pattern. Over time, it realizes: “I don’t need reassurance to be safe.” This is how new ways of thinking are formed. How to step out of the trap: S.T.O.P. S — See it for what it is: OCD Name it accurately. This is not intuition, love, or truth. Say to yourself: “Here comes the ROCD bla bla again.” T — Tolerate discomfort and uncertainty You do not need certainty to stay in your relationship. Anxiety is uncomfortable, but not dangerous. O — Observe the urge without obeying it Notice the urge to ask for reassurance. Do not act on it. Let the urge rise and fall. P — Proceed with your life anyway Stay connected. Keep living and showing up—even with anxiety present. Key insights • Thoughts are not facts • Feelings are not commands • Anxiety is not insight The thought is not the problem. The response is the problem. Peace comes from disengagement, not certainty. When you stop feeding the OCD trap and return your focus to living, anxiety naturally fades. Healing from ROCD is possible ❤️‍🩹

I’ve been doing the exact same to my parents and I accidentally burnt them out.. My mom gave me the idea to keep my mind busy.. so like doing an activity that distracts you from the thoughts.. Hopefully this helps somehow!