Not great. I’ve felt overloaded.

Tried to talk about a recent concerns to family member, got dismissed, and hurt. I’m probably not in a good spot to have more conversation about it with him yet (it’s about feeling restricted as an adult child while staying at my parent’s home for a visit - was requested to be home by 930pm. However,it’s more like a requirement, less of a request). I know I need to ask if it was a one time/two time thing or a consistent request. I honored the request this evening and was home by that time but have started to feel crappy about it. Cue spiral. When I asked about it (I’m 37 and visiting my parents out of state, and I’ve never ever had an imposed curfew in my life. Ever) He said ‘this isn’t a curfew, and isn’t personal or about you. It’s a request. I don’t want you to break down and me have to come help or your brother to (he’s sick at the moment). To which I said you won’t have to, I have AAA. I take care of me. I also have a key to the house and lock up and do what I always have when I get back (for years I did this). He says he just wants to know when the house is locked up. I was then told ‘if this is the worst thing that happens to you, you have a good life’. Basically causing the conversation to feel circular and unproductive. I was flooded, feeling ‘what does that have to do with anything’. Then he changed topic was changed to talk about someone who recently died ‘life is too short’. He walked away mid conversation saying oh brother, and scoffing, and therefore ended the conversation. I still have anger, and lack understanding of what is going on and why this certain thing is being imposed. He told me why, but we didn’t get far into the conversation for me to express what I really wanted. It was more a one way expression on his side. I’m just annoyed and having a hard time not just compulsively spinning. I just walked away confused like ‘that has nothing to do with what you’re asking, or what I was trying to say’. I don’t know how to go forward. I just don’t know. I also feel I spiraled when he initially requested because I just assumed it was always and then I got mad. I feel spirally because I’m frustrated, and now also feeling am I being really unreasonable? Am I personalizing where I shouldn’t? It just feels really awful, controlling in ways, and the conversation doesn’t help. I’m anxious about being mad. If I’m mad I usually don’t get anywhere, and especially not if I’m mad at this person.