Healthy boundaries vs. harmful accommodation

Yes and No - I lament that society in general isn't set up to foremost support people's mental health, but I'm glad that those kinds of messages do get out in the wider world somehow (even if via trending social media). Starting from where we are now, we can work towards a world in which people are exposed to these things sooner in their lives rather than later.

@MrsNatalieDaley I think that boundary-setting is a great thing, and I also have some concerns about it…… I feel like the increased societal emphasis on “boundaries” is less a function of improving people’s mental health and more a function of our individualist culture— that is, I feel that all this talk about “boundary setting” is more about pushing other people away (and causing further isolation and “atomization” in society) than bringing people together. But that might just be my AuDHD talking.

@Infinite Boundary-setting has the goal of allowing all of us to be more fully integrated into society in a way that feels true to ourselves. Here's a couple of paragraphs from the article, where they address your specific concern. (I think the NOCD app makes it hard to realize that you have to click the post or photo to get to the full article.) "In recent years, the way we talk about boundaries has gotten confusing. We’re having more mainstream conversations about mental health, and topics that were once reserved for therapeutic settings have become commonplace. In this landscape, it’s easy to stumble across online advice telling you to cut everyone out of your life who has ever upset you, or that “community” means tolerating treatment from others that feels unacceptable. What none of this advice can tell you is which boundaries are appropriate for you and your specific relationships. While conversations about boundaries have gotten confusing, boundaries themselves are still important. A boundary is a rule, request, or limit that alerts other people to what we are comfortable with. For example, “If you email me after 7:00 PM, I will not respond until the morning.” Healthy boundaries help us define the shape and scope of our relationships, which helps us see them clearly and appreciate them all the more. At their best, healthy boundaries are flexible enough to evolve as we do while ensuring that we treat the people we care about with respect, and that we receive respect from them in return."