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I get exactly what you're going through and it's so difficult to process that. But whether you did or didn't, is something you can't change. Everyone's memory is so different of the same event, bc it's associated with different feelings and aspects that stood out to you. It's easier said than done but accept you don't know, forgive yourself for the what ifs that pop up, focus on making good decisions when possible. Took me a while to get there
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@ocdbelowzero well I'm curious as to what you'll do if you're not going to accept it? Usually for me it's do the compulsions/try to solve the intrusive thought, or accept it and move on. If accepting uncertainty is too difficult, I tell myself I'll deal with it later when my emotions aren't so high since I don't have the best judgment when I'm so anxious. Sometimes I come back to it and still do the compulsion or I'll realize my OCD is being unreasonable. I also practice telling myself that although the what ifs suck, I'm not in any real danger if they're true.
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I really struggle with trying to remember if I did something wrong or not and not being able to remember. This has happened to me a ton this past year or two.
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@ocdbelowzero Lately, I've made the decision to just let it pass and not do anything to try to remember--and also not try to fix anything. In other words, I've made the decision that I need to do NOTHING when the situation comes up. However, I haven't actually put that into practice yet. It's just a decision that I have made. This is much easier said than done. In the past, I have usually ruminated too much and tried to solve things. But I believe that the answer is to let it go. Like I said, this is easier said than done. I have not become good at this yet at all.
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@ocdbelowzero Excepting the worst case scenario might be helpful? that is a strategy for accepting uncertainty. There are probably multiple different strategies for that type of situation. I think it depends on what you think is the most helpful. In the end, the important part is to move on :):):)
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I definitely struggle with the replaying of everything I said in a scenario, even if it most likely wasn’t bad or knowing the person isn’t thinking about it anymore, I’m still thinking if I could’ve done something differently. I’m sorry you’re going through this, we’re in it together!
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