Partners with OCD

Hi everyone. I’m new here and hoping to learn from people with lived experience. I don’t personally have OCD, but my boyfriend does, and I really want to understand how to support him in ways that are actually helpful (and not unintentionally harmful). I know everyone’s OCD journey is unique to them. I’m not looking for one “right” answer / solution, but I was wondering what has worked for some of you in relationships. For those who have OCD or have dated someone with it, what has helped you feel supported? Are there things partners often misunderstand or do that make symptoms worse without realizing? Any tips, boundaries, communication strategies, or resources would be really appreciated. Thanks in advance for anything you’re willing to share <3

Fedz el

Date posted: Yesterday

all i can say is Bless you for helping your partner out and getting help for him, it’s a difficult battle with OCD it really is it varies. for me is Jesus He knows my thoughts and heart tho i may not. i say f ocd out loud to acknowledge the issue and to be like nah screw this breathing in and out and getting fresh air But Jesus for me

Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

What makes me feel supported is feeling like my boyfriend understands the disorder in and out so that’s great that you’re on this trying to receive some advice. Some of the best things my boyfriend does is not feed into it he tells me I get 3 min a night to say whatever is worrying me then were done and I have to wait until the next day if I have something else to say. He tells me there’s nothing in the world he needs to know and doesn’t care what it is he doesn’t want to know. He’ll cuddle me and show me love so I know he’s there but he won’t engage with it.

bettyb

Date posted: 17h

Having my husband be patient with me. Sometimes the best help is just sitting with me, holding my hand and letting me speak out loud all the things I’m thinking while he doesn’t try to “fix it”. Sounds very similar to the above. ♥️ you’re a blessing to want to learn.

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