NOCD

User type: Staff

Date posted: 13d

Is it a gut feeling, or is it relationship OCD?

Does your mind ever jump from “my partner and I had a disagreement” to “maybe we shouldn’t be together?” Most healthy relationships involve conflict and repair, but relationship OCD (ROCD) can make even the most minor disagreement feel like evidence that you’re fundamentally incompatible. At the same time, real issues do come up in relationships, even if you live with OCD. That’s what makes ROCD so tricky—it can leave you unsure as to what's OCD and what actually needs to be addressed. By learning how to tell the difference between ROCD-fueled concerns, and the things that truly matter to you, you can identify and work through relationship issues.

Trying To Be...

Date posted: 12d

I have experienced many themes throughout my life but this one is by far the most distressing to me because it directly influences another person and someone you care immensely for which makes you feel absolutely guilt-ridden, anxious and self loathing… I pray anyone experiencing this can find peace and allow themselves grace and patience, it’s a terrible theme but one I am sure we can overcome! None of us are alone in this… God Bless all 😌🙏

JustRell215

Date posted: 12d

Exactly this. I honestly wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. I've dealt with this for two years and it was just horrible. Thankfully my partner stuck with me and my ROCD died down a lot since. It's still there though. One thing I noticed is that ROCD attacks what you care most about. In my case I wanted to be sure she was the right one. I didn't want to be hurt again.

alan87

Date posted: 11d

@JustRell215 I am with you. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.

alan87

Date posted: 11d

@Trying To Be Better God bless you as well! We are not alone. Especially with God on our side. Amen.

Cdawicki2002

Date posted: 10d

@JustRell215 I was kinda similar too and still am. While I love my girlfriend, whenever my ROCD pops off or ocd in general, it makes me not wanna invite her over and makes me think less of her and act as if we’re not compatible anymore and more. It’s so daunting and demoralizing… and especially emotionally draining

Anonymous

Date posted: 8d

@JustRell215 Anymore advice on this pls

JustRell215

Date posted: 8d

@Anonymous Only thing I can add is to try your best to resist the compulsion and ruminating. The more you feed ROCD the worse it gets. And I find that to be true on all themes of OCD. Now obviously that's the hard part. But mine got better over two years. It's still there though. It's just less loud if that makes sense.

notthereyet

Date posted: 12d

Explain why is when ROCD is talked about, why is it only romantic relationships and does not include platonic relationships

JerriL

Date posted: 4d

@notthereyet I suffer rocd with my friendships. I worry that everyone else is closer and I am left out. I got very close to someone recently. I thought I was at the top of her list. Suddenly, she started talking to me about other friends and it sent me spiraling

alan87

Date posted: 11d

I am having that exact thing right now. I am having the thought that maybe I shouldn’t even be with my wife. Is God trying to tell me something? Is it my instinct?

Anonymous 25#

Date posted: 7d

@alan87 Wow I went through this too ! It’s so bad

PurpleVelvet

Date posted: 11d

I hate how absolutely real it feels, like fact. It’s constant for me 24/7 in varying degrees and that makes me feel like the “exception” as I always hear people talking about it coming and going, but for me it sticks and stays everyday

Anonymous

Date posted: 8d

It is really frustrating to deal with and has been a reoccurring theme in all of my relationships.

Anonymous 25#

Date posted: 7d

Anyone deal with ROCD and also sexual orientation OCD at the same time? It’s brutal

PurpleVelvet

Date posted: 5d

@Anonymous 25# Yep! SOOCD is far more sticky and stubborn than any other theme and that makes it feel true. I think it’s because with ROCD I worked out that you can keep choosing your partner, it just might take some working on your perception of relationships and mindset, but with SOOCD the threat is so much greater, because even if I keep choosing my partner, if it’s true, it’s out of my control, as “you can’t choose/change your sexuality”, so I’d have no choice but to leave! So the stakes are much higher and it’s the most scary theme of them all and it’s constant for me, which makes me feel like I’m the exception and it must be real as everyone always talks about it coming and going, but this feels rock solid and it’s scary!! Sorry you are experiencing these themes too, it’s the double whammy!! They are the worst!

Anonymous 25#

Date posted: 5d

@BlueTulip You’re definitely not alone it’s so awful but with the right tools we can overcome it

Heather7185

Date posted: 6d

I can’t tell you how emotional I got reading this. I thought I was just clingy and ridiculous before I realized ROCD is a thing. I’m new to OCD treatment (not ocd sadly) and knowing other people also feel the “oh no we fought now everything is over” feels makes me feel not so alone.

Oliviabalsa

Date posted: 12d

ROCD is particularly intrusive for me 😔

Piggy23

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 11d

I have rocd but at the same time every relationship is going to have disagreements

MsMonk

Date posted: 10d

So related!

Anonymous

Date posted: 11d

I suffer with OCD in my relationships as well; intimate and platonic ones 😕

Debee

Date posted: 4d

💯

GabiJ

Date posted: 3d

I am new to my diagnosis and have lived with “just anxiety” for most of my life… I am new to OCD and I didn’t realize there were subtypes either. I definitely struggle with ROCD and it’s to the point where I don’t like to let people in because it’s so exhausting to have friends because each friend I go through this same stuff with… I am so worried all the time and in my experience, several can’t stand it and end up leaving anyway. 🙃 I am new to this platform and I am trying to be hopeful that this therapy will help, as no other therapy has helped me previously.

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