anyone relate?

Start with little things, like making your bed. It will give you confidence to do things for yourself. You don’t have to do it all, but action is the remedy to your despair.

i am terrified to turn 16 like my mind every second of everyday just goes on about my birthday and it’s so stressful so i have to have a countdown to see how much time i have left also birthday twins (june) the laws in my country change when u turn 16 so im also worried about that and ive spent the last few years unwell and insecure and stuff so i feel like ive just missed out on everything i hope things get easier for you :)

I’m 23, 24 in June also! And I still don’t have a clue where I’m going and what I’m doing exactly. I have felt pretty behind at times. You’re still young, even if you are an adult. it’s ok if you don’t have everything figured out. I think a lot of people don’t, and everyone faces obstacles and uncertainty sometimes. You are absolutely not out of time. I’ve been feeling that way since I was 17, and I’m still here and doing ok.😂 Don’t compare yourself, focus on just one day at a time. Set small goals that are attainable. Don’t beat yourself up if things take longer for you than others. You’ll be ok :-)

Aside from what was mentioned in the post above as starting with small things, which I agree with. I noticed that your perspective focuses on what you "want" to do rather than what you "need" to do. I think this shift in mindset plays an important role in keeping you motivated.

I am 27, 28 in may, and I’m still learning to deal with “adulting.” Anyone who acts like they have it all figured out is full of it!! We’re all making it up as we go. I have to constantly remind myself that everything is a lot more exhausting when you’re neurodivergent. Even simple tasks seem impossible or take a lot out of you. But with time, you start to build routines/habits that work better for you. I just got to a point where cooking seems manageable. It took a partner who was willing to help and lots of slow cooker recipes. Some people really benefit from meal prepping or meal kits like hello fresh. You just have to figure out what works for you and that unfortunately takes time and trial/error. The best advice I ever received was from my past therapist when I was about 22 or 23. She told me that your 20’s are rough, but it gets so much better the closer to 30 you get. Becoming an adult is HARD and there’s no roadmap on how to do it. But with time, things start to make so much more sense. I can’t tell you how many times throughout my 20’s I’ve thoughts about how right she was. I am just now (at 27, almost 28) starting to feel a sense of alignment and like I might be equipped to handle adulting. Your 20’s are for acclimating to the realities of adulthood and unlearning all the things from your past that don’t serve you. Your 30’s are for putting it all together and figuring out how to live. And even then, everyone is on a different timeline/path. Be patient with yourself! And have so much grace for the fact that you’re just beginning the “adulthood journey.” You can’t be good at something without practice! I won’t say everything gets easier, but you’ll figure out ways to make things easier for yourself.