MR.25.25
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Rocd
Does anyone else ever remember hurtful stuff that was said to them years ago and often are triggered or just even randomly pop up in your head and you get mad or depressed and ruminate on it
_branderz_branderz
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- Yesterday
This is one of the many things I’ve been dealing with lately. It’s not an easy thing to have your mind focus on. Makes you want to believe everything that was said was true even if it’s not.
ROCDmenschROCDmensch
- Date posted
- Yesterday
Yes, this only "goes away" if you learn not to ruminate after a trigger. It's a loop. I try to set myself a stop sign, say "stop these aren't helpful thoughts right now. I am allowed to feel my emotions but ruminating exentisvely about something in the past is not helpful. I will stop now". I know that there are certain places that trigger these thoughts, for example sitting in a train and listening to sad music. It used to be my habit to ruminate und make myself miserable during those times. Know I redirect my thoughts. It's okay to be triggered, it happens automatically. However not giving in the compulsion is key. But this also involves healing from past trauma. If there is something that you aren't healed from and is deeply hurting you it's important to work through this. For example I had PTSD from something that happened in my early twenties and I did trauma therapy because otherwise these techniques that I just told you wouldn't have helped.
MR.25.25MR.25.25
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- 16h
@ROCDmensch Thankyou and yes exactly!!! I have bad PTSD but I used to think it didn’t affect me and that maybe it didn’t bother me or I would at first play it off even with humour and try to be strong but I’m starting to realize how intense it really is and how bad it is it’s been awful and my therapist wants me to start therapy for it I just talked with my new psychiatrist for the first time today but I feel really upset and even a little angry because I’m realizing a lot of my disorders stems from PTSD and it makes me so mad that other people have affected my life so badly where it’s hard to be happy and my ocd is now worsened from all of it despite somewhat being genetic cause a lot of people in my family has it but I guess not as bad as me they even admitted that it’s so depressing and I just wanna have a normal life but anything now seems to set me off where either I get mad or very depressed or my OCD just takes over and I’m asking for reassurance 24/7 driving myself and everyone around me crazy it really sucks yesterday I did so good and had a break through in therapy and was really happy till something popped in my head that my husband may or may not have said to me in the past along with other things he has said that are indeed hurtful and I kept obsessing over it all night and really annoyed him I feel like I failed and I should just let go of whatever it was he said but it’s hard and not even just him but my parents past relationships and even stuff from when I was kid in school that bullied me badly still plays in my head it’s horrible and I feel miserable my husband is a good man but sometimes he says things that can be hurtful or has where it makes me insecure and he wants me to get over it but it’s hard I want to but it feels like time and therapy with medication is my only option and it will take a while
Tea and HoneyTea and Honey
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- 21h
This is normal
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