OCD and toxic family…

Hi all, I’m struggling with a family situation and could use some perspective. I’ve had a couple of big fights with a family member recently — two “explosive” arguments in total. One of the issues is that I had told my family I would stay in the house for a year, but after the fights and ongoing tension, I started looking at jobs and considering moving out. During the fights, this family member criticized me harshly, made me feel like I’m not doing enough, and involved logistics around a baby niece. There was also a recent issue with the car where my sister wouldn’t let me leave and my dog’s bed being almost thrown away that caused additional stress — I felt like I had to constantly negotiate everything and couldn’t have any autonomy. After trying to have a serious conversation with them about my feelings, I found out that my parents had been telling this family member everything I said in confidence, including venting about the baby and household responsibilities. This broke my trust and made me feel like I don’t have anyone in my family I can confide in. Now, my family is upset because I’m considering leaving, saying things like: • “You’re overreacting.” • “You’re just being sensitive; I get cussed out all the time at work.” • “You’re leaving us in a bind.” • “It’s dishonorable because you said you’d stay a year.” • “It’s affecting the baby.” I’ve offered to give a full month’s notice, but the guilt and fear of disappointing my family are overwhelming. I feel stuck — if I stay, I feel trapped and resentful; if I leave, I feel like a bad person. I’m also trying to figure out logistics like moving, bills, and finding a pet-friendly apartment, while preparing for a new job that pays $49k/year. I’m leaning toward leaving because it aligns with my long-term goals and independence, but the guilt and fear are intense. Has anyone else dealt with this kind of family conflict when making a big move? How did you handle the guilt and fear of “hurting” family while prioritizing your own life and mental health. My ocd has been really struggling with chronic guilt and hyper responsibility