I hate these questions...

I have to fill out an application for a program (that my parents will murder me if I don't do) which okay fine, it stresses me out a bit due to reasons but I just want it out of the way.. but to apply I need to make an essay for it and about a certain question. Essay part is fine, do not mind whatsoever, but the question is: "If we did an online search or you 30 years from now, what would it say you had accomplished in your life and career? What else would the search reveal about you?" T^T ... UGHH I hate these questions so much !!! Can't they just ask why I want to join the program instead, or anything else ? I know any other normal person wouldn't care but this stresses me. This triggers my Existential and Perfectionist OCD so bad since I already freak out so much about my future, I don't even know what I want to do yet. I get scared that whatever I say is a lie or it "seals" my future, or just in general I'm having so much intrusive thoughts about this it's awful . :^( I hate questions about the future or about my ambitions because there's SO MUCH I want to do but I don't have an exact answer. And finding an exact answer just makes my OCD go nuts. What should I do ? Ugh, and I don't want to "not try" but I also don't want to overdo it.. I don't know and my mom is getting impatient.

Seek2Blanc ૮...

Date posted: 4d

I also hate those. The best I could say is that you should answer in the present as if you were making each step as you go. Whatever you feel most passionate about, what would make you go for that or towards that specific part? Then continue from there, try to make it like a story or path instead of an exact destiny as they word it. If you have ambition that's all that matters. As long as you start somewhere you'll be able to finish, this is just a simple question at the end of it just remember it is not a prophecy or your exact life outcome. I hope this helped a bit and I'm sorry if it didn't. Good luck! ♥

VVbee

Date posted: 7h

Thank you for this response !! Tonight is the night were I'll actually write my essay and I will definitely use your advice to help me along with it . :^) What you said about it not being a prophecy of my life outcome is true, I always try to keep that in mind . I will try to lean towards on what I'm passionate about and the many outcomes on who I MAY become in the future, rather than trying to find ways to describe on who will actually be despite not being certain. Once again thank you, that really helped me out and made the process easier. 🙇‍♀️

RayMoe

Date posted: 4d

I worked in a college help students write essays for things like this. Not sure what the program is for but as long as whatever you write is tailored to that specific program you'll be fine. Similar to the comment above, I tell students to treat this as an opportunity to be creative and not to map out your future. If you have a plan great, if not that's great too. They usually just want to see that you're motivated and get to know you a bit. I also heard in a writers meeting once someone mention that they would write their personal statements from the perspective of someone else like a friend or relative who knows them and that helped them get their ideas out. Thay way it's as if your friend is describing you as opposed to you. If that makes sense.

VVbee

Date posted: 7h

Thank you for telling me this..! I have asked my older sister about what she'd see me doing in the future and different options I'd seem to try out, I will try to incorporate that in my essay.. what I plan to do now after seeing these response is as I said on my other response, describe the different outcomes of what they may see me thrive on in the future and who I can possibly be . As you said, I'll try my best to be creative and not struggle on predicting my future. Thank you for this response.

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