Is this relationship ocd or I m right

Like I said in my previous post I m with a completely dry person no affection no intimacy no time for the relationship so it became roommates relationship only when I get mad and bring this up then he try to change but I m no bringing this up but I m super mad inside and sad but everytime I try to bring it up my brain reminds me nothing changed in the past so just don’t bring it up which I didn’t but the anger still inside me I can’t control it but getting mad is like telling what to do and I m done telling people what to do while I m scrolling on social media I see lovely men’s that show their affection and it just made me break down :( like why I couldn’t have one like that no that I want a relationship if I break up mostly stay single for years but why he couldn’t just be like that at the beginning some what he cuddle but the intimacy never been there at al all

Anonymous

Date posted: 17h

Im not an expert but it sounds like your partner just isnt meeting your needs, OCD or not. Social media is fake, all of it, its a show. Expecting your partner to behave like people on social media is unrealistic because THEY dont even really act like that. HOWEVER you of course can and should have a discussion about how you're feeling. Try not to do it when you're mad, and try to give very specific examples of how they CAN show more affection the way you'd like instead of focusing on what they havent done in the past (ie. "I'd love it if you kissed me when you leave for work in the morning" vs "you never kiss me"). You can stress that this is something that has been bothering you and you need to talk about it. Most importantly tho make it clear that u also want to hear how they are feeling and give them the space to say that without retaliation. Then you can make a decision from there. Communication is 🔑

Monii

Date posted: 16h

@Anonymous Yes agree ocd or no is no meeting my needs and these needs are what every other normal girl would want to expect back correct social media is fake that’s very true I have so many discussions about this this why I just get mad and don’t bring it up anymore I m exhausted but I know getting mad is no the answer I want to stop getting mad because when I get mad it give me bad anxiety to protect my self I m trying to stay calm I just feel that isn’t that what guys supposed to do same for the women we aren’t suppose to be telling someone what to do in a relationship they should know or maybe I m wrong like he should do this on auto mode already I always listen to how he feeling and give him space all the time like wha I m asking is for normal stuff I m no asking for extra ugh agree communication is all I tried so many time I also send him reel and pages from the internet also speak to him so many time I get told that I m never satisfied with anything and that I complaint a lot when the whole time this haven’t been a relationship because the only time we do anything is if I beg for it and I m just so done of begging honestly I really appreciate you taking your value time to stop by here and read my venting I hope you have a very nice day :)

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