I’m worried my partner is giving me too much credit when I don’t deserve it. Bc he probably is overshooting what ROCD is. If that makes sense. I feel like I should tell him it’s actually real stuff I just get stuck on or something along those lines. What should I do. I don’t wanna bring it up anymore. I just worry about all this little stuff.
You don't need to bring it up. OCD recovery often means that we "ride out" the yucky stuff while we continue to live our lives exactly the way we would without OCD. So practice that. Live your life the way you would if you if the thoughts weren't there. And make sure you don't confess the thoughts just because the OCD wants you to.
@Tea and Honey Thank you so much! I’m always like I’m not going to share this stuff with him but my brain is always like “even if, even if, even if” It finds every reason that I should Confess! But I’m giving up the fight!
@Mk3 Keep "riding out" the demands is OCD. The OCD will whisper to you, then yell at you, then scream at you. Don't obey it. Don't give in to its demands. If you "ride out" the demands of the OCD (and also the icky feelings that it brings), eventually you will come out on the other side. You WIN 🥇 when you refuse to do what the OCD says (even if you still feel icky inside).
@Tea and Honey It’s like sitting in the horrible feeling and guiltiness and choosing to do something else to occupy yourself. Choosing to be present . So hard. Especially when your brain comes up with everything to prove you shouldn’t be doing that. Like there’s a lot of “no nos” in relationships that I feel like I cross. And it freaks me out. But as long as I’m not a cheater I shouldn’t freak out I guess
@Mk3 Yes!!!! You are on the right track! You're doing the right thing! I know it feels "wrong". But that's because OCD has totally skewed our perception of reality. In truth, the right thing to do is to just go on with our lives and leave all that OCD alone (even though we feel icky inside). I am in the same boat. Alarm bells are going off in my head all day long. I feel like I'm going to die at any misstep. The truth is that I need to live my life normally and let all of this go. But it's hard because OCD has distorted my understanding of reality. The OCD makes me feel like I'm in danger, and I have to follow certain rules in order to keep myself safe. It FEELS like reality, And it takes us a long time to grasp that it is just a matrix created by the OCD. Just keep going and doing exactly what you're doing! Keep sitting it out, even though it feels terrible. It WILL get easier with practice. You can do this!!!! I know it seems wrong, but it is actually the right thing to do
@Tea and Honey Yes!!!! I’m just going to not tell him anything regardless of all the reasons I feel like I should
@Mk3 Awesome!!! You are doing great!!!
@Tea and Honey Sometimes I think if I didn’t have a faulty alarm in my brain in the first place none of this worry would exist
@Mk3 I soooooooo understand!!!
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