FIRST TIME HERE, ROCD Question

Sometimes with ROCD you invent things to be worried about. I'm not a master of it myself, but I've found that the brain likes to pick out things to reassure itself when it doesn't have the answers. If you look close enough, no one is perfectly symmetrical. Ever notice that you don't make these critiques about your friends? That's because you don't have a reason to ruminate over their appearance; your fears are making you hypervigilant about her while you're trying to reassure yourself that nothing is wrong, while secretly torturing yourself with "oh God, did I just find the final nail in the coffin?" It's not easy to deal with, for sure, but you're going to have to learn to let it go. No matter who you fall in love with, unless you're a billionaire who personally pays for your significant other to have countless surgeries, they're going to have physical flaws that OCD will latch onto. If you don't work on breaking the cycle now, you may experience the same sort of unhappiness in your next relationship, too. There's usually an underlying fear when it comes to ROCD, like what will happen if you're in a loveless marriage, or something like that. I think as long as that fear gets addressed, you'll find it relaxes and wanes, but it is a process. If you haven't already, I'd suggest reaching out to a therapist to begin the process of addressing that fear so you can allow yourself to experience the relationship and be present for it, rather than spending all the time picking apart if this is "the one". Hope that helps, and good luck!

Based on your feelings and depending on how you feel about your partner, if you grow closer, you may grow to love those things that are imperfections.