I’m really scared. I don’t want to lose my relationship because of ROCD.

Every single day in my head, I can’t stop having these issues of thoughts about breaking up with my girlfriend, even though everything is perfectly fine and she did nothing wrong and I don’t want to break up, but my ROCD keeps telling me in my head and I’m having these issues of thoughts about it and I’m not thinking about the present And thinking about what if that happens in the future giving me anxiety and panic attacks I know I’m not going to do it but why am I thinking about it?

uwaharu

Date posted: Yesterday

It’s not going to be easy, but the best thing to do is to challenge these thoughts. You have to tell your ROCD that maybe you do want to break up, maybe whatever it’s telling you is going to happen WILL happen. You have to accept the uncertainty of it, reassuring or trying to disagree with these thoughts only keeps the cycle going, and it’ll never get any better this way. Like I said I know it’s not an easy thing to do and it’ll even feel scary at first, but I promise you things will get better. Remember that OCD is ego-dystonic and will tell you things that go against what you believe in. 🫶🏻🫶🏻

EmilyZagger

Date posted: 23h

@uwaharu I one hundred percent agree with this comment! It’s all about accepting the uncertainty and desensitising your brain to the thoughts. The ocd attacks what you care about most in the world. For me it’s my husband,so I fully understand. The ERP exercises will help you get better

Mikey241

Date posted: 23h

@uwaharu Thank you I’m trying to get better 🫶🏼

Mikey241

Date posted: 23h

@EmilyZagger Yes, I do love and care about her the most so it bothers me that I’m thinking about it and I can’t stop thinking about it.

Anonymous

Date posted: Yesterday

This is very normal with ROCD, I’ve just started therapy for it. The movies and loop imagines are very hard. Just remember it’s not real. I tell my self that often. When it starts happening to me I say “this is not real”.

Misaaraii

Date posted: 21h

Sometimes i’ve pretended we did break up and we are broken up. Bam! worst thing happened. Ok brain, now what? .. It helps alleviate the symptoms a little bit. Then I can go along with whatever it is I need to get done. cook, clean, do homework, do my hair, take a shower. Whatever it is. If you live with your girlfriend, it is kind of like a constant trigger, sometimes it’s Ok to take your space and just act like you’re your own person and that you don’t have to worry about her. I’ve been having constant ROCD since the winter started, so i’m just trying what I can. If any part of this triggers you, just don’t read it.

Mikey241

Date posted: 21h

@Misaaraii That’s honestly a great idea because like you said with having constant ROCD it’s like your biggest fears in your head thinking it’s true or coming true when it’s not and you’re in control but with having ROCD, it’s hard to be in control I’m gonna try to do that and see if that helps. Thank you 🙏🏻

lostmyswag

Date posted: 22h

Does it ever make you feel feelings of disgust or distaste towards her? Does it make you imagine that youd be better off with someone else? and even feel convinced of this

Mikey241

Date posted: 22h

@lostmyswag Yes!

lostmyswag

Date posted: 11h

@Mikey241 do you experience over thinking about her being right for you or enough WHILE with her?? like FREQUENTLY? because i just spent a whole week with my bf and it's been constant. ugh i truly love him so much. it's the most confusing thing ever. it makes me nauseous and not able to be myself, and then unhappy when he can't bring me out of that headspace.

Mikey241

Date posted: 2h

@lostmyswag Same here I barely eat and nauseous because I constantly think of the worst and always in my head.

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