moving on

does anyone have any advice for moving on from a friendship that ended? it’s so frustrating because i know i can’t fix anything but i can’t help but be reminded of our friendship everywhere i go and it really brings me down. i just want to be able to find personal joy in things again without associating them with him. i think i am finding extra difficult because i’m neurodivergent and the situation just doesn’t make sense to me? just ending a friendship without fighting for it makes me confused and frustrated because i can’t understand the “why” if that makes sense??

Debieess

Date posted: Yesterday

Life goes on. I went throught this last year, It’s very difficult. Just feel the emotions, sadness, angry, and live your life, day by day. I lost friendiships but I have these friends still in my heart, they were good friends. Just accept that we can’t control people, and they come and go in our lifes. That’s life! Enjoy every moment with friends and family today!

gillywithluv

Date posted: Yesterday

@Debieess thank you this is good to remind myself of! i’ve never had very close friends so this one is a lot harder to move on from. and i don’t really have that many other friends so i just feel pretty alone in it which is really hard. i’m trying to accept it but i’m just so unhappy ://

Monarch690

Date posted: Yesterday

@gillywithluv You aren’t alone! We have all experienced an end of something. I had a friendship of 15+ years end. Then it resurrected itself. Now, it’s a different kind of friendship. Not nearly as close but it’s there every once in a while. You never know what the future holds for you and this person. But for now you can appreciate what was. Acknowledge the growth that happened during. And bring that greatness into your next close friendship.

gillywithluv

Date posted: Yesterday

@Monarch690 this is so wonderful to hear thank you soso much for this🤍it’s hard to remember the good moments without feeling nostalgia or frustration. but your outlook is one i am trying to work on! i certainly have better knowledge and communication skills for the future but i just have to accept that this middle part is gonna suck sometimes.

nae nae

Date posted: Yesterday

I am currently struggling with this, except I'm the one who ended it. I know I made the right decision for myself (and for my sister), but the guilt eats me up. The thing you said about not understanding someone ending a friendship without fighting for it is something they said to my sister and I during our last conversation. I wish I had an answer for you 🥲 but I think it's different for everyone. In my case, it wasn't a decision made overnight. I dont think they were an inherently bad person, but they were shaped by the circumstances they grew up in (which were quite toxic). In my head, I kept making excuses for their behavior, and that went on for years. It got draining. We couldn't ever have a mature conversation with them, and my sister and I both just eventually realized they weren't going to ever change... Btw so sorry for rambling 😭 I guess my best advice would be similar to what Debieess said. Just allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with this friendship ending. Sometimes, there isn't a clean ending. Sometimes, it's out of our control, and we just have to learn to accept that. If we make mistakes, we'll just take those lessons with us into our next friendships. It's a part of life! It might seem bleak now, but I think we'll be okay. With time, it will heal 🫂

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