OCD comparing someone I find attractive to family

It’s killing me right now and I don’t know how to ignore it. I have horribly OCD surrounding my father and it’s draining me. If someone I find attractive has even the slightest same feature as my dad my OCD will tell me the celebrity looks like my dad therefore I’m attracted to him. I’ve struggled with this in the past and it’s never gone away i would js stop having in interest in that specific media. For example, even if I guy I found attractive had a black tee shirt on or a beard my brain would make a comparison to my father. Once I have that thought it’s like I can’t reverse it and will constantly compare the two. Has anyone else struggled with this? If so, what did u do? I don’t know how to ignore it, I can’t tell if they actually do look alike if it’s just OCD. Cause I don’t really see the comparison but it’s more like the feeling now like my brain has attached my father to this character and I can’t let it go..

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Date posted: 10h

I totally get this I have OCD surrounding my father as well however it’s in the opposite way, for instance I find myself picking out and analyzing certain aspects of someone and if it starts to remind me of my father it turns into almost a feeling of hatred or anxiety or thoughts of I need to get away from this person right now and it can be the smallest things but it impacts my relationships so much. What I do is when I get in those loops of finding similarities and psyching myself up I just start to tell myself my ocd wants to ruin this, it wants me to lose, this person is not my father and this tiny thing is irrelevant to the person as a whole. It gets very hard sometimes and there is no final solution unfortunately, you just have to tell yourself it’s your ocd trying to sabotage you and try to force those thoughts out and tell yourself this person is not my dad over and over again. You could also try to be upfront with the person if it’s in a relationship and just say hey I’ve got ocd this is what it affects and doing so actually feels like a sense of power, without giving it words and holding it inside it gets a lot more real and urgent and maybe thoughts that your a bad person because of it and it helps that part especially by being upfront about it. Im sorry you have to go through this but just know your not alone 💚

OCD comparing someone I find attractive to family

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