Posts getting flagged

The other day i was feeling desperate and hopeless. So I made a post on here to rant because I feel like the topic is so taboo that I didn’t have anywhere else to go. A few hours later, my post got flagged for asking for reassurance. In my post I don’t think I deliberately asked for reassurance, and essentially just wrote down everything that was going through my head. My making this post I guess all I was hoping for was for someone to say “You are not alone” but instead it felt like a slap in the face. I understand that asking for reassurance can be dangerous in OCD but I know that the situation I’m going through right now is deeper rooted than OCD but it keeps getting brushed off because I have been diagnosed with OCD. Even then though, My old therapist used to tell me not to hang out with others with ocd because we’ll just make things worse for each other and that makes the condition even more isolating. It’s like they want to treat us all like we have CF and aren’t allowed to come in contact with each other. Again like I can’t talk about it, I can’t talk about it, so I come here to a safe place I feel like I can talk about it and they tell me to keep it to myself.

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Date posted: Yesterday

Hi Hammm 👋 when I first started therapy, there was a lot of information coming at me very quickly. I totally understand your frustration here—you are trying to find a place to vent and work through tough symptoms and a diagnosis, and it feels like you are getting shut down for it. That can’t feel great! For me, it felt like my first few months were *very* OCD focused — sometimes full of compulsive research or compulsive oversharing with friends or family while I struggled to navigate my new diagnosis and what it meant for myself. I didn’t realize I was feeding my “existential OCD” at the time. What helped eventually was sitting back and letting therapy do the work for me. I focused on showing up, doing the homework as prescribed, and then focused on enjoying my life outside of that. With time, OCD took care of itself without any extra work, worrying or planning on my part. As I extinguished my OCD through steady work, I realized my life is so much bigger and there are so many great things going on around me that had very little to do with OCD at all, and I was missing those things. I don’t know if sharing any of this helps, but you aren’t alone. The first while after diagnosis can feel like you are barely treading water. Keep up the work and soon you will see that the ocean that is swallowing you up was actually a puddle all along—you just need time to discover you are stronger than your OCD. 💪 Give yourself that love and patience even when you don’t always find it in these spaces. Wishing you luck on your journey 🍀

Anonymous

Date posted: 21h

It’s hard cause I definitely remember going on a fb group for ocd when I first got diagnosed and just feeling worse because it was basically a space for a reassurance seeking. And I’ve felt that when going into the free option of the chat, so I am glad that they’re flagging posts so this can be more of a supportive space. That being said, having a post flagged when you’re having a hard time is rough. It’s also taken me time to figure out my language that allows me to ask for support and reassurance. There are definitely times that I tried asking for feedback as a reality check when really I was seeking reassurance. It may be better to attend the support groups right now where you can get a more human response. There you can really meet people. It helps me when my issues are big to hear others and think for a second, “that’s ridiculous that they’re so afraid of that,” and then remember my fears are just the same.

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