weird question again

so i asked a similar question a few days ago, but i never ended up getting a clear answer and it’s bugging me again. i watched this movie and i can’t remember how long ago it was. in this movie there’s a child actor and i remember thinking he was super adorable, at the time i was somewhere between 3-6 years older than him so i had absolutely no interest in him as far as i can remember. however, years later, i watched another movie where he appeared again only this time as an adult and i remember finding him attractive. i don’t know if this makes me a weirdo for finding this grown up child actor attractive. i once read a book where there was a 5 year age gap between these two people growing up and during that time the older of the pair had zero interest in pursuing the younger person but once they reached adulthood they started gaining romantic interest. that never seemed strange to me since there was no interest during their childhood and it was only after they were both adults that they got together. i tried thinking about my situation through this lens but my brain is telling me that because there’s a possibility that i was 6 years older than the actor when i first saw him in a movie it’s not the same as what happened in the book i read since they only had a 5 year age gap. again, i’d like to reiterate i never liked the kid i just found him as an adult attractive. i’m wondering if this makes me creepy. i no longer find this guy attractive because i feel like it’s inappropriate and my mind made it all weird but i can’t help but feel like i’m a terrible person for ever having found him attractive

Anonymous

Date posted: 22h

I understand where you're coming from, and I know it's extremely uncomfortable. However, this is asking for reassurance which is not helpful. Are you able to talk about this with your therapist?

BigGyro09

Date posted: Yesterday

I don't think it's weird that you find him attractive as an adult because you clearly don't see him that way when he was a child. I think it's two completely different things when you say a baby or a child is adorable and an adult is attractive. In my mind, I actually feel it's more conflicting when the person is a teenager and then they reach adulthood because they look mostly similar as a teenager. For me there are some examples of actresses that I do find attractive such as Victoria Justice and Billie Ellish. For Justice I'm several years younger than her and I've had a crush on her when I was a pre teen and she was a teenager. I think I still have a crush on her now that we are both adults. In the case of Billie Ellish we are a month apart in age, though there are times where I may see videos or pictures of her several years ago when she was still a minor and it leaves me uncomfortable. I can see what you're getting it. It gets confusing and complicated for me as well when it comes to this. I'm sorry that it brings up difficulties but you are not your thoughts

Steve.Ribby

Date posted: Yesterday

A common example of this is the Harry Potter films. Many people have said they feel weird about finding the actors attractive when they become adults because the actors were primarily child stars. It's defo a more common thought process than you'd think and not just tied into people with OCD.

Amythecat

Date posted: 22h

This is how OCD works friend. It sounds like last time you brought this up, you did get a clear enough answer to temporarily make you feel better. Now the questions are back and demanding MORE certainty. Don’t keep giving into these compulsions, because it’s not going to help you recover ❤️

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