Im new to this and I know OCD has many themes and majority I can handle. I have been dating my partner for 7 years and it has attached to my relationship of my questioning it. When I go out in public I seem to (without even realizing) I’m checking people out and comparing. I don’t even know if I should call it “checking out” or just looking around and noticing. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Yeah I’ve had this for years I’ve been with my partner 7 years also. It’s normal to find people attractive and it’s ok to accept those thoughts- it doesn’t mean anything about your relationship your OCD will just force you to spiral and start to think it’s wrong but it’s so normal
@Anonymous That’s what I’ve came to terms with. Sometimes it makes me become distant in a way.
what sometimes helps me out of the illogical spiral is thinking—if the thought of me thinking this or the thought of cheating on my partner freaks me out/scares me, I’m not going to do it. My rocd likes telling me that I’m gonna mess everything up by cheating, but it’s really not that easy. You’re a good person, you aren’t gonna go insane and do something crazy. I just have to try and logic my way out of the spiral, sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t haha
Hello, I’ve come on this app tonight to help others out. About me and my ocd- I’ve been in and out of hospital, having 30 + showers a day, changing bedding anytime I have an intrusive thought so this could be 20 times a day, etc etc! I’m always checking and always trying to “figure it out” ocd has ruined my life. However, I finally decided enough is enough and that’s I don’t want to live like this anymore because trust me it’s horrible! I finally listened to my therapist because before when she said “go with maybe it Is” it “it definitely is” I would still refuse because it felt like I NEEDED to know ASAP!! However, just these last couple of days when I get a trigger I say to myself “yes I like this groinal response” “oo yes I like this thought” “yes I am a bad person” “oh well who will ever find out” and of corse this has helped me massively! I have such less thoughts and so less triggers and compultions! I’m not down to 2 showers a day due to this…. This shows how well it works, it’s just doing it. At first I really didn’t want to listen to my therapist because I needed to know, I couldn’t live without knowing, however we can, and will. I am proof that it gets better, I never thought it would but here I am, slowly getting better and so can you! For you do this… Look at another adult your age and even say to yourself “oo yes I like them” or “oo they have nice legs. I know, it feels uncomfortable but this is ocd recovery
@ocdSuupport Yes - definitely feels uncomfortable. Am I still labeling or just going with that and moving on?
@Jason.Michael1 What do you mean sorry?
@ocdSuupport So when I see someone attractive just complementing what I see then moving on? Or am I saying maybe I did find their legs attractive maybe I didn’t
@Jason.Michael1 More a less. But make it more intense. Purposely look at others faces and features and say “oo they’ve got nice eyes” “they’ve got nice legs” because this is exactly how you recover from ocd trust me it’s scary at first but this is exactly what my thereipist has told me to do in relation to my Pocd
@ocdSuupport It’s interesting doing this with a partner though like then that’s when my distant feelings come in like I’m doing something wrong
@Jason.Michael1 I can happily tell you that you aren’t doing anything wrong by doing this. The fact that it worries you shows you’re a good person!
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