Okey now I'm afraid that I may have emotional dependency towards my boyfriend, and that because of that I'm not "in love" with him for real, but "addicted" to him.. And that in order to feel better I have to leave him... And here we are I'm crying..

Rachel52

Date posted: 5y

I used to have this. Don’t listen to it. Think of those thoughts as your noisy neighbours, they’re going to be there... they pay their rent, you can choose to listen in, but you wouldn’t be commenting or debating with your neighbours through the wall would you? No. It’ll go.

Saskia

Date posted: 5y

Thank you you're right I have to treat this thought like any other ROCD thought I had before

Rachel52

Date posted: 5y

@Olympea You really need to, or it’ll never end and you’ll just keep ruminating. easier said than done right? The solution is so simple yet impossible.

Saskia

Date posted: 5y

@Rachel52 Yes it will take time but I really don't want to spoil or lose my relationship because of this

Mimi123

Date posted: 5y

I already felt that!! Be careful don't do something you don't want to do!!

Mimi123

Date posted: 5y

That's normal for an OCD! I was talking to my therapist today about that cases in my life! And it's pretty normal for us! But that doesn't mean you don't love him

Saskia

Date posted: 5y

Thank you for all your support you are incredible ! I'm feeling anxious this week and it's probably my OCD coming back after a month of peace with this thought.

leafy

Date posted: 5y

baby you don’t have to depend on anyone to be in love. you know how you really feel about him. if you don’t want to leave him, you’ll know. Trust me, depend on yourself and see how dramatic your relationship changes. He can never give you an answer you already have. Good luck sweetie!! ❤️

Saskia

Date posted: 5y

I don't want to leave him I just want our relationship to work... And the anxious thoughts to stop

Saskia

Date posted: 5y

Thank you for your comment ❤️

leafy

Date posted: 5y

@Olympea they’ll never stop baby, and I’m sorry! however, you can process them on your own and change your own life without leaving him. It’ll work out no matter what, but only if you focus on correcting yourself before correcting the relationship.

Saskia

Date posted: 5y

@leafy You're right... So you think I can work on myself, on my codependency and rOCD without losing him?

leafy

Date posted: 5y

@Olympea unfortunately, you can’t control a break up. if he ever wants to leave, he will, but learning to be independent will make you a more confident person, and will benefit the relationship. I can say if you work on yourself, drop codependency, and learn to live with and understand intrusive thoughts, you’ll shine brighter in general.

Saskia

Date posted: 5y

You're right I simply don't want to leave him... But I have all the symptoms of emotional dependency and I'm really scared

Rachel52

Date posted: 5y

OCD thoughts and questions you give to those thoughts will never have a real answer so if you debate with yourself over it you’ll just go down this endless circle.

Dion Martin

Date posted: 5y

Wow! What an commendable choice because thats not an easy decision but very healthy choice for you and him.... I went through something similar to your outcome in a relationship but instead of me breaking it off, she did and it was a good reason too although neither her or I knew my O.C.D was the cause of our relationship so feel better and make sure you understand O.C.D and how to treat it... I wish I would have know my situation so I could of treated it before I lost my family...

Dion Martin

Date posted: 5y

I hope that makes sense

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