I need advice

I have experienced this with my fiancée before. I want to preface this by saying he has also done extensive mental health work for himself so I can be open with him and he is very understanding. I go through moments of time where I feel this way. Something he taught me early in our relationship was that your thoughts and feelings aren’t real. You can choose which ones you pay attention to and ones you don’t. It’s in a way what we are learning with OCD. The first thing I did was, anytime I started feeling this way, I took deep breaths and told myself let’s not panic. I don’t even tell myself it doesn’t make sense. I say I am human, I experience things outside of my relationship that make me tired, angry, upset, and those feelings are with me wherever I am. I know I love him. I know why I love him. I just don’t feel it right now. So I choose that love everyday, even if I am not feeling it, because it is good for me, he is good for me/to me, and the feelings always come back. Sometimes stronger because he has been patient with me and loved me through those neutral times. Something very freeing that I have discovered (and decided) is that my feelings don’t dictate what I choose for myself. The partner I am with is the best one for me, the best one to me, and on my best days I feel all of that so strongly. So I guess what I want to say is you deserve love, feelings Eb and Flow, and you deserve a good life. You would probably experience this off and on feeling with anyone, so don’t beat yourself up and choose a good person to be yourself with! This isn’t an ugly part of you or a bad part of you. And it sounds like he will be understanding and supportive. If you tell him what you are going through, but that you appreciate what he brings to the relationship and this is a part of you that is frustrating, but you value what you guys have on your best days, maybe he can love you better through that and you will feel safe and supported. Those two things I think were what brought me my relationship ocd. Never having felt like the person I was with was in it for the long haul and loved me for me.

don’t make any sudden impulsive decisions. love is kind, and most importantly, love is patient. i get what you mean, but the lack of feelings could be your ocd.