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AnonymousAnonymous
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Hi! Congrats on C1! Wow that’s an accomplishment. It’s ok to feel nervous in a new place. Totally normal. Respectfully, (and unrelated to OCD) I highly recommend trying to find shared values, commonalities and connections with the citizens. You mention “conflicts w the values” and I encourage you to look with a curious and compassionate lense. May you find shared values or something that unites you as humans. As travelers and guests in another space, it’s our responsibility to listen, learn and practice open-mindedness to new cultures. Best of luck
vampyxvampyx
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@Anonymous I’ve always loved learning about new cultures and meeting new people, and that hasn't changed since I moved here. When I mentioned 'conflicting with values,' I specifically meant the fear of accidentally offending someone or unintentionally disrespecting their values. Deep down, I don't have any fundamental disagreements with the culture; I’m just afraid of hurting someone's feelings by mistake. Thank you so much for your support!
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@vampyx Oh that’s great! In that case, go you! Be proud and keep on going. It will get easier. OCD can be present wherever we go, so might aswell be somewhere cool. And it wil get so much easier. Keep being open to it, and be easy on yourself, and it’s gonna be fine. Plus, kudos on the C1, that’s legit a huge accomplishment
vampyxvampyx
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@Anonymous Thank you very much, I hope everything goes well.
halmelhalmel
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Hi. It's been 6 months since I moved to a new country very very far away. And I soemtiems get these thoughts, too. Like everything else in OCD, the less you do compulsions the better you get, there's no other way to recover and heal. If I sat down and pay attention to that thought and feeling I'd very soon develop a new obsession too. Don't push them, our brain doesn't understand the difference between pulling and pushing. Let them be there, don't pay attention
vampyxvampyx
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@halmel I think my general fear is failing here and returning without completing my education; I think I need to elaborate on that.
vampyxvampyx
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@vampyx By the way, thank you very much, I hope you have a safe and pleasant journey as well.
halmelhalmel
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@vampyx Oh god. You are experiencing my exact obsession. And I failed before in another country for my masters. I had like a phobia of leaving something unfinished for couple of years after. Know that this is a compulsion my friend. Catch your brain at the moment in which it is trying to “measure” whether you’re gonna “fail” or not.
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@halmel Amén :)
AnonymousAnonymous
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@vampyx You got this. There’s no such thing as “failing at educational accomplishments”. I know that can be hard to feel/believe. Being there matters. You’re doing enough :)
AnonymousAnonymous
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@halmel Yup :)
vampyxvampyx
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@Anonymous Actually, I'm under some pressure, and I don't want to disappoint my family. Still, I'll keep fighting 💪
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