I have SOCD and for my ERP I have to watch gay men come out later in life. Because I am so afraid of being gay. But when watching these videos it just makes me want to come out, so I can just stop fighting, an being so stressed out. Even though all my gay thoughts are dystonic thoughts. Does anyone else feel this way?
But neuroplasticity is real. And mindfulness is powerful. Like I said just have to put in the work. Ocd is the doubting disease. It feeds off doubt, you gotta learn to stop feeding it. Sounds silly but it’s the truth
hello, if your up for it, are you able to explain to me the subtype of OCD revolving gay attraction? I've seen stuff about, but i'd like to gain an understanding from someone who experiences first hand :) it's okay if not though, especially if it's a trigger. Good luck with ERP, rooting for you
Idek tbh lol. All it is for me is I see a man and I get distressed, and then I say wtf is wrong with me that isn’t me, and then I overthink and roominate
Im new to the whole erp thing but im trying to get rid of the fear of being gay. So that i can just live my life, and be there for my girlfriend fully. Who we have been together for 3 years
@Basketballer23 No worries dude. Put in the work and you’re gonna have a whole new mindset around this and those thoughts won’t bother you anymore! It’s completely normal to notice that people are attractive, even another guy. OCD will weaponize those completely normal thoughts, and therefore the loop starts. And here you are! ERP is the way out!
@TE1022 Yea I just want the thoughts to stop and I think the only way that will happen is to say I’m gay
@Basketballer23 Nah man not at all, Your just putting way to much importance on them, Telling your Brain they’re important and therefore creating that loop, Your putting so much attention on them your brain notices and keeps Bringing them up. What you focus on grows, I want the thoughts of me losing control or hurting my kids to stop you think me saying I’m a murderer Is gonna make em stop? Absolutely not. OCD goes after what we value. It sucks and it’s not fun at all but erp works. Keep Putting in the work and have faith
@TE1022 What if there’s no thoughts and just a feeling.
@Basketballer23 OCD produces thoughts, feelings, urges. Treat them all the same. We always have a choice. No matter what thought, feeling, the comes up we always have a choice, with ocd we choose to allow whatever thought, feeling tha comes up to be there while we live our life according to our values. I wanna be a good dad and husband. So I don’t give a shir what comes up trying to say otherwise I can acknowledge the thought and live my life how I want to anyways. I know ocd sucks, battling your mind isn’t fun but erp works and is the gold standard for a reason. First step is accepting you have ocd and have to deal with the unwanted thoughts, feelings. And that we can’t have 100% certainty about anything in life.
Thank you sir that really helped appreciate you!!
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